Umndeni wamaPatriatriki: Imikhiqizo ne-Cons

Siphila emndenini kusukela ebuntwaneni. Sizungezwe ngabazali, ugogo nomkhulu, uma zikhona, khona-ke omalume nobabakazi. Lokhu, nakanjani, kungcono kakhulu. Siyazi ukuthi umndeni uyiselula yomphakathi, iningi, mhlawumbe, elinamandla. Iphelele futhi ayiphelele, i-monogamous kanye nesithembu. Ihlukaniswe yaba izinhlobo nezinhlobo. Uhlobo oluvame kakhulu yi-patriarchal. Yilokhu okuzoxoxwa ngakho kulesi sihloko.

Le ndoda ingumphathi!

Kusuka egameni kucacile ukuthi umndeni wezinzalamizi yilowo ophethe umyeni nobaba. Nguye othatha izinqumo ezibaluleke kakhulu futhi ezinenjongo, uqondisa isiphetho sezingane futhi ungumqondisi wesabelomali somndeni. Lokhu kubhekisela kunguqulo ye-classical yalo mqondo.

Kungani ushintsho lwenzeka?

Ngokusho kwedatha ye-ethnographic, umndeni wezinzalamizi waba ngumndeni olandelayo emva komndeni wama-matriarchal, lapho abesifazane bebuswa. Ngokubunjwa kwemiphakathi, abesifazane balahlekelwa amalungelo abo, asetshenziswa ngokugcwele ngamadoda. Umphakathi wonke wawungaphansi komuntu oyedwa - ubaba. Kukhona imibono enjalo njengendlalifa kanye nelungelo lefa.

Indlalifa iyisihlalo sobukhosi

Kusukela emlandweni, siyazi ukuthi ngokulungelo kwefa emindenini yamabukhosi yinkosi-baba, isihlalo sobukhosi sathunyelwa kumdala endodaneni. Iminyaka yendlalifa ayinandaba: aze afinyelele iningi lakhe, yonke imisebenzi yenkosi yenziwa ngumlondolozi.

Ama-stereotypes

Kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zemindeni, i- patriarchal - inketho evame kakhulu. Amanye amabhayoni asekhohliwe kakade, njenge, isibonelo, ilungelo lefa. Njengangaphambili, emaqenjini anjalo, indoda esemqoka yindoda. Nakuba umphakathi ube yintando yeningi futhi ulingana namalungelo, kaningi umyeni ohlala ewodwa kuphela. Owesifazane, njengasezikhathini zasendulo, udonsela umlingiswa womgcini wendawo.

Kungani eyikhanda?

Esimeni esinjalo somphakathi njengomndeni wendabuko wemindeni, umfazi uzithoba kumyeni wakhe (ukubusa okungukuthi okungaqondile). Indima yakhe ebaluleke kakhulu ngenxa yokuzimela kwakhe kwezomnotho. Uma esebenza, kusho ukuthi uyathola imali. Ukugxila emakhakheni wezezimali egameni lomndeni, wenza izinqumo ezibalulekile kuye. Lokhu kusebenza emisebenzini eyengeziwe yengane, ukuthengwa okusha komfazi noma indlu, ukuhlela ukuzijabulisa nokunye okunjalo. Ngokuvamile umlingani naye usebenza, kepha umyeni usabambe iqhaza kwisabelomali, ngisho noma umnikelo wakhe wezezimali awukho ngaphansi kwengeniso yomyeni wakhe.

Izinhlobo

Umndeni wanamuhla wezinzalamizi unezinhlobo eziningana:

1. Uma imali engenayo ingokwakhe, futhi owesifazane ujabule ngalesi simo. Kukhona izithakazelo ezivamile, kukhona ukuxhumana, ukuqondana okuqondanayo ukubusa. Lona uhlobo lomndeni ojabule: yena naye ujabule omunye nomunye.

2. Uma indoda ingenayo imali eyisisekelo, kodwa yesikhashana nje, owesifazane uyinhloko eyinhloko. Umyeni ohlukumezayo uzoqala ukuhlubuka ngokushesha noma kamuva. Isizathu asiyinto encane: umyeni ufuna ukuhlupha umkakhe, kodwa akafuni ukuthi umyeni angamniki yena nabantwana. Le nyunyana iyobhujiswa.

Uhlobo lwesithathu, olusekelwe ezinzuzweni zomnotho. Indoda ayiyona encane kangaka, kodwa icebile, umfazi usemusha, kodwa ngaphandle kwemfundo nemali. Umshado usekelwe ekuvumelaneni kanye nokuqonda.

Njengoba impilo ibonisa, umndeni wezinzalamizi ufanelana nobulili besifazane. Indoda, ummeli wobulili obunamandla, iyisekelo eliyinhloko lenyunyana yabo. Ngokuphambene nokuphulwa kwamalungelo abesifazane, umi ngemuva komyeni wakhe, ngakho yena nabantwana bakhe bavikelekile futhi banakekelwa.