Lapho ingane iqala ukuhamba

Kubo bonke abesifazane, isimo sokukhulelwa yisikhathi sokutholakala kwansuku zonke emzimbeni womuntu. Nsuku zonke banomuzwa omusha, i-tummy ikhula, futhi nayo ikusasa lomntwana. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abesifazane abaningi abazizwa bengumama kuze kube yilapho ingane iqala ukuyixosha ngaphakathi. Kusukela kulo mzuzu lapho umama eqala ukuqonda ukuthi angeke abe yedwa, futhi ngisho namanje angakwazi ukuqala ukuxhumana nengane yakhe ngokusebenzisa i-stroking. Ngakho, ingane iqala nini ukuhambisa?

Ngesonto leshumi lokukhulelwa, umntwana uqala ukugijima ngentshiseko ngaphakathi kumama wakhe ozayo, kodwa yena, ngenxa yobukhulu bawo obukhulu kakhulu, akanakuzwa. Isikhathi lapho umntwana eqala ukuhamba khona, kuncike ekutheni ubelethi uzokwenzani. Ngakho ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwesibili nokulandela, uzizwa ukuthuthumela kwengane yakhe cishe amasonto amabili ngaphambi kwe-primipara. Isikhathi sokuqala ingane ingaba isonto lama-20 lokukhulelwa kokuqala.

Omama abaningi bahlale belalela imizimba yabo, besaba ukuphuthelwa ukushaywa okokuqala kwengane yabo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukunakwa okujulile kwemizwa yomuntu ngowesifazane esimweni esithakazelisayo ngeke neze kube yinto engafanele, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungenxa yokulindela ngokweqile ukunyakaza ukuthi bangathatha lokho abafuna ukukwenza. Ngamanye amazwi, akuzona njalo ukunyakaza okuthile esiswini okungase kuhlotshaniswe nomsebenzi wengane. Esikhathini sokuqala, lezi zinzwa cishe zibangelwa yi-banal flatulence, echaphazela cishe bonke abesifazane abakhulelwe.

Usuku lapho umntwana eqala ukuhamba khona, kubalulekile ukukhumbula, njengoba kungesinye isikhathi isibonakaliso sokuthuthukiswa kwayo. Naphezu kokuthi zonke izingane zithuthuke ngabanye, umama kumele aqale azizwe ukushaywa kokuqala kwengane kungakapheli isonto lama - 23 lokukhulelwa. Futhi, abanye ababelethisi bezinkinga zokubeletha babeka usuku olulindelekile lokulethwa kulolu suku. Le ndlela isetshenziswe ezimweni uma udokotela engabaza ukufaneleka kwe-PDR ebekwe ngosuku lokugcina esikhathini.

Ngasekuqaleni kwalesi sikhathi, bonke omama banombuzo othi: "Ingakanani ingane okufanele ishukuthele?" Ayikho impendulo engafanele, ngoba konke lapha kukhona umuntu ngamunye. Into eyinhloko ukuzwa ingane nokunyakaza kwayo umama kufanele abe nsuku zonke futhi njalo. Uma ukuthuthumela kunamandla kakhulu futhi kwenzeka ngesikhathi esifushane, kufanelekile ukuxhumana nokubonisana kwabesifazane. Lokhu kungabonisa ukuthi ingane ilahlekelwa umoya-mpilo esibelethweni. Uma umntwana engenzi isitatimende ngaye ngokwakhe engakapheli amahora angu-24, kufanelekile ukuxhumana ngokushesha nomjozi wezifo zamasosha, njengokuthi mhlawumbe akaphefumulanga, noma isimo esithile sesifo esenzeke esidinga ukungenela okusheshayo.

Uma ingane ihamba ngokushelela ngama-breaks amancane ukuze ilale, khona-ke singakhuluma ngokuthuthukiswa kwayo okujwayelekile. Ngosuku ngalunye oludlulayo, abazali abazayo bayobe beqaphela ukuthi umntwana wabo ujabule kanjani esiswini sikamama. Ekuqaleni, lokhu ngeke kubangele ukuthi umama akhathazeke, kodwa ngokukhula kwengane, ukunyakaza kwakhe kuzobonakala nakakhulu futhi owesifazane angase azizwe engathandeki ehambisana nalokhu.

Isikhathi lapho umntwana eqala ukuhamba khona, uhlobo lwephuzu lokubala ngaphambi kokubeletha. Manje uzokhulela ngokoqobo phambi kwamehlo akhe, futhi ukubonakala kwakhe kuyobonakala ngokwengeziwe. Umama kumele aqaphele kakhulu ukunyakaza kwengane futhi uma kunoma yiziphi izinsolo ezingalungile kufanele zibonane nodokotela ngokushesha. I-crumb namanje ayikwazi ukusho okuthile okuphazamisayo futhi ukuxazulula izinkinga zakhe, ngakho-ke owesifazane kufanele alalele umzimba wakhe njalo, afunde ukubamba izinguquko zakhe.