Kuthiwani uma wena shaya inkinga yokukhula?

Amadoda amaningi bebhekana olushintsha ngokuphelele indlela ezibheka ngayo ukuphila. Bacabanga kungaba bajabule kakhudlwana. Futhi uma uya ngokuphelele bashintshe ukuphila kwabo, bese uzwa isidingo ukwenza lokhu ngokushesha.

Imicabango enjalo kungase kubangele inkinga yokukhula. Uma ungakwazi uqaphele ngokwalo kulesi sigaba, bese wenze ukukhetha ezihlakaniphile ke ngokushesha ukuphuma esibucayi futhi uqale ukuphila okujabulisayo.

Indlela ukuqaphela isimo esibucayi maphakathi no-ukuphila

"Inkinga ekhona ukuthi, njengoba umthetho, kuyinto isifiso sokuguqula izimpilo zabo," - uthi Calvin Kolaruso - Doctor of Medicine likaprofesa wezifo zengqondo e-University of California. Ucaphuna umbiko isibonelo kusuka umkhuba wami, lapho indoda ethile yabhala inothi kumkayo, wathatha imali akhawunti sahlala kwelinye idolobha ngaphandle kwesixwayiso.

Lolu hlobo lwe-maphakathi nawo-ukuphila nenhlekelele ezingavamile. Ezimweni eziningi, abantu baqala nezinguquko ezincane, kanye nenhlekelele kuthatha isikhathi eside. Wena, isibonelo, ungakwazi ukutshela umkakho ukuthi ufuna ukuyeka umsebenzi wakho, futhi ukukwenza. Noma ingabe ukusho ukuthi ungathandi somshado wenu, futhi unganquma ngisho ukudivosa. Kodwa awukwazi ukushintsha konke kodwa angawenzi izenzo yenza ngokuphelelwa yithemba. Futhi amadoda amaningi ngemva kuhlolwe ubuhlungu ezifana ukunquma ukuba ngisale sengihlala yilokho abanakho.

Izimpawu eyinhloko obumbi

Zikhona izimpawu eyenza umuntu angaqonda ukuthi nithatha zidlule esigabeni se-mid-ukuphila esimweni esibucayi, futhi zihlanganisa lezi ezilandelayo:

• Usanda kuvula engu-40 ubudala. Ngokuvamile, amadoda babhekene inkinga yokukhula eminyakeni 40 noma 50.
• Ukhathazekile izenzakalo ezivelele zokuphila kwakho. Awukwazi yaneliswa ukuthuthukiswa yabo umsebenzi, umndeni, ezempilo, futhi yini oyozizwa efuna ukwenza okuthile ukukulungisa.

• Ingabe unomuzwa wokuthi ngeke awusenalo isikhathi esiningi ukuze izinguquko. Amadoda amaningi aqala ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi kwakudingeka esiphuthumayo ukwenza izinguquko ekuphileni kwabo. Lokhu kwenzeka ngokuvamile lapho umuntu uqaphela ukuthi ukubukeka kwakhe kwashintsha nomdlandla akuyona lapho yayikhona ngaphambi. Kungenzeka kube nezimo ezenza lapho indoda iba umkhulu, noma okunye uma he phoqoka umngane wakhe noma umzali. Noma kunjalo, asikwazi bathi inhlekelele yama yobudala emaphakathi - lokhu kuyinto ezokwenzeka uma izinto ezinjengalezi zenzeke.

• Uthatha izinqumo engavamile ngokwethu. Abantu baze baye ngokusebenzisa "usakhula edlubulundayo" kule nkathi ekuphileni kwakhe. A uphawu olucacile of the crisis itholakala lokuthi ukuthi uzizwa bevalelekile, futhi une nezilingo ezinkulu ukuba baziphathe ngendlela ukushaya impilo yakho. Ezimweni ezinjalo, abantu baqala ukuphuza ngokweqile, abathandi, ungawujikijeli umndeni, nginomuzwa wokuthi ukuphila kwabo mude akusho ivumelane nabo. Bona nje basuke bezifunela ngokubukeka kwabo, bayakulangazelela lokhu ukugembula futhi amadlingozi.

Ungakwenza kanjani ukusinda obumbi

Inkinga Mid-ukuphila kungaholela ukukhula, futhi self-ukubhujiswa. Ungabheka izizathu zokuthi kungani uzizwa engajabule bese beveza isixazululo ukubhekana nabo. Lesi silinganiso sokukhula.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma uphuza izinqumo ngokuphamazela, isibonelo, ukuba baguqule ukuphila kwabo ngenxa ubudlelwane nomlingani abasha, owasheshe siphele, noma ukuthenga imoto ukuthi engingeke ngikwazi ukuyikhokhela, ke iholela ekubhujisweni.

Indlela uzivikele amaphutha

• imizwa yakho akuzona iqembu esenzweni. Yini uzizwe sengathi kumelwe siyiyeke wokugcina umsebenzi, umkhaya noma ikhaya, akusho ukuthi ngempela kufanele sikwenze. Lezi imizwa kungenzeka ngempela ibonisa inkinga ukuthi kufanele ziqondiswe. Kodwa nabo ingashabalala noma ishintshe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
• Yiba bayabonga ngezinto ezinhle. Nakani labo izingxenye zokuphila kwakho ukuthi uyajabula yini. Zibuze, ingabe bayojabula uma kukhona azokwenza ukuthi lokho bekuyokwenza ulahlekelwa kubo.

• Cocani ngaloku. Uma kudingeka wenze izinqumo ezibalulekile, zama ukuxoxa nabo othile ogama iseluleko obathembayo. Umngane, isihlobo, noma njengoba professional emkhakheni yempilo yengqondo uyokusiza Ngakolunye uhlangothi ukubheka ingabe uyafisa yini ukuthi sikhethe kahle.
• Zibuze ukuthi izifiso zakho zangempela. Abantu bekwazi ukwenza izinto eziningi yimpumelelo eminyakeni 40, futhi kamuva: ukubuyela ekolishi, ukuhamba emhlabeni wonke noma okunye kokuvula okwabo. Qinisekisa ukuthi imigomo emisha ukuthi ulandele, esisebenzisekayo futhi amandla ukuyifinyelela ngayo.

Futhi okubaluleke ...

Gwema ukuba ubuqede ubuhlobo nomuntu nemindeni yabo. Qonda ukuthi awudingi ukuba kuphole bashintshe ukuphila kwabo, ukuze sijabule. Kodwa uma ngempela ufuna ukwenza lokhu, bawuqonde ingqondo yakho, ukuthi ushintsho olunjalo ayemancane lilimaza abantu abakuzungezile.