Umusa - ubani lo?

Ungabonisa kanjani shayela owayethanda esihlasela abesifazane abaningi? Voice kusukela izilaleli: "Umusa - kuyinto definition evumelana naye." Impela kufanele abahloniphe. Manje ake ukubhekana nalabo, yiziphi abesilisa nabesifazane futhi yini ukuthi imfanelo - onothando.

Izinhlobo ezimbili ubuhlobo kowesifazane into futhi njengoba isihloko

Phambi kwabo bonke imibala ukupenda lokho yokubonisana uthando (siyaqonda ngemva kwesikhashana), kudingeka senze amazwi methodological.

U-Erich Fromm wabhala umsebenzi omuhle, "Have noma Be" (1976). lonke iphuzu zalo iwukuthi abantu bangayiqonda emhlabeni kanye nabanye abantu, ngokusekelwe izinhlelo amabili aphikisanayo ngemibono. Egumbini elilodwa - ukugxila ifa, uma izwe nabanye abantu nezinto avela kuphela kumadivaysi ukuze bafinyelele imigomo yabo siqu yomuntu. Enye kuhilela ukuhambisana nokuba, lapho wonke amakhemikhali zomhlaba ibonwa njengoba umlingani egcwele. Ngekucabanga, bayehluka esicacile: eyodwa inikwa amandla yi-uthando ( "ukuba"), kuyilapho omunye ufuna kuphela ukuba linqobe futhi wamukele ( "ukuba"). Ehlome ngamathuluzi afanele ulwazi theory, sifika Impendulo yombuzo womusa - ubani lo?

UHenk Mudi njengesibonelo umuntu othanda abesifazane ngempela

Isithombe okucacile hero "Californication" kuzokusiza uqonde abantu abangathandi yencazelo yesayensi ngubani indoda ngothando. Hank abesifazane abaningi futhi zonke ayithandayo ngendlela yakhe. Ngenkathi kuqala anakho ukuya emngcwabeni kayise, futhi, njengenjwayelo kumafilimu, ozitika izinkumbulo ngaye. Phakathi kwezinye izinto, indodana ngokugqamile ezwa amazwi kayise, u asekhanda lakhe: "Labo bonke abesifazana ngihlangane, ngangithanda. Othile engu-10 ubudala, futhi othile angu-10. " Mhlawumbe kungenxa - yencazelo engcono yokubonisa uthando, okungase inikezwe.

Ngakwelinye ihlangothi, Hank ophika iyiphi ukufana kuyise ngisho okuthile, luziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Uyabathanda abesifazane ngempela ngobuqotho futhi siluhlanganyele, sicela kubuyiselwa. Njengoba wazi, hero resents uyise ukuthi wabanikani unina. Ngicabanga emva lokhu akufanele kube yinkinga, umusa - kodwa ngubani lo? Zonke ecacile. Noma kunjalo, ngingathanda ukukutshela futhi ngalo muntu-umthengi.

Alphonse - umuntu ohlala ngezithukuthuku abesifazane

Kubhekwe sibalo, nakuba ayengafiki ngokwesiko nobuntu ngokoqobo isiRashiya, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka. Ngaleso sikhathi samanje, lapho izindinganiso axutshwa, amadoda abe isifazane kakhulu futhi kwezinsana, futhi ngezinye izikhathi abavuma siphile, sithembele intombi, lolu hlobo kufika yonkana ezingasho kaningi. Futhi ngeke kube kubi kangako uma umuntu sasixhomeke abesifazane ngoba izimo ezihlukahlukene akumnandi kakhulu noma ukushayisana okungazelelwe ukuphila, kodwa akukho. Ngeshwa noma ngenhlanhla, kodwa ngandlela-thile okunenjongo zokuphila.

Izincwadi zakudala futhi uyazi Ezimweni ezinjalo. Njengoba isibonelo esingazithatha omunye protagonists indaba AP "Gooseberries" laseChekhov sika. Khumbula, kukhona omunye wabazalwane washada umfelokazi othile ocebile bese nayo ethuneni ngenxa yamaphupho akhe - ifa? Lapha kuyinto kakhulu isibonelo Alphonse. Kulokhu, lapho sizibuze: "abantu Wothando - lena ke," impendulo ingucha, ngoba uthando lapha akusho ukuhogela.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, u-Alfonso kungaba ngokomthetho bavume ngothando, kodwa ngabo kuba izinga ithuluzi, futhi abalisebenzisa ngobuciko ukubhekela zombili imizwa yabo nemizwa yomunye umuntu.