Dual, banemizwa engqubuzanayo - ukuphambuka noma impahla yemvelo?

Umhlaba multidimensional. Umuntu lomuntu liwumsebenzi futhi hhayi kuqondile , hhayi eyodwa emaceleni. Kodwa iqiniso lokuthi sikhona ezihlukahlukene-izisusa, imicabango, izisusa, izifiso - lokhu okwamanje yinkimbinkimbi. Ngokuvamile umuntu ahlangabezana ngesikhathi aphikisanayo efanayo imizwa. Ambivalent - leli gama nje kusho "webumbacambili", "ifayela kanambambili". Kungenzeka kanjani ukuqonda futhi uchaze? Njengoba siqhubeka silwa nendlela yokukhuthaza ehlukahlukene kanye nezidingo. Ngokwesibonelo, isifiso uphumule futhi ukudlala kukhompyutha yakho kungase kungqubuzane isicelo intombazane ukuba ngihambe naye siyoqhuba movie. Isisusa banemizwa engqubuzanayo - kuba ezifana okuyiwona asinawo umuzwa olulodwa. Ngokuvamile maqondana abathandekayo sithola lonke ekhishwa omkhulu wokudlulisa imizwelo. Ngokwesibonelo, abaningi bethu bayawazi isimo "kanye nothando nenzondo." Kungani lokhu kwakwenzeka? Ngenxa yokuthi uncintisana imizwa elinobugovu nelishisekela oluphathelene nokuzidela, isifiso sokuba nomuntu ezimele kanye nesidingo lobuhlobo.

Ambivalent - akusho "okubi" noma "ezisolisayo" izwi sibhekisela kuphela kushuba nakho bidirectional. Akuyona into engavamile ukuzwa noma ufunde izindaba lapho kulo mzuzwana kakhulu wadida indoda. Okokuqala, umuntu obhekene nale mizwa. Ngokwesibonelo, uma befa nezibi othandekayo, kwabaningi, lokhu kungenxa hhayi kuphela ekulahlekelweni ukufutheka nesizungu, kodwa futhi uhlobo impumuzo .... Futhi kungokwemvelo nakho okunjalo akunakusetshenziswa akufanele uzisole wena. Phela, ngamunye wethu lokuyeka self-ukulondolozwa. Uma nentaba subordinated ngokuphelele ekuphileni kwethu, nathi ngeke ngibe namandla ukusekela khona. High kungaba ingozi disorder kakhulu engqondweni.

Ambivalent - uyinto kokubili "plus" futhi "lokususa", ukuheha kanye umuzwa wokwenyanya. Ekuphileni, kukhona ngokuvamile imizwa enjalo kanye nesimo sengcondvo lesibi. The self samanje futhi bakwazi ukuzibona ku bi Ohlangothi amasignali, izisusa, imizwa. Phela, ukuze ube nesimo iyehla iyenyuka esiphakade ngangokunokwenzeka. izinyathelo eziningi ezibalulekile zidinga isisombululo lethu eliyingqayizivele. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu umuzwa noma isisusa kumele uhambise kwenye. Ngokwesibonelo, ukushada, amantombazane ngokuvamile - yize ziyahlanya othandweni naye esizayo ukuphila - baba, nemizwelo engqubuzanayo. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho ukuqala ukucabanga ukuthi wenza iphutha kukhethwa umakoti. Kodwa kuyindaba uhlukile: isimo sengqondo banemizwa engqubuzanayo esiya emshadweni nje emihle. Phela, ubonisa ukuthi abantu abavuthiwe futhi uyazi ukuthi lisiphatheleni ayigcinanga injabulo, kodwa futhi ukuzimisela, ukusebenza, kwakuwukuthi izithakazelo umkakhe nomkhaya.

A emagama ezithile esivela abantu abaningi. ukungabaza Ezivamile ukuthi sibhekene izinyathelo ezinzima futhi ezibalulekile - liphinde umzabalazo izisusa nemizwa engqubuzanayo. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi uphonsa nobunzima belinganisa kambaphambili esikhanya kakhulu futhi sigqamile. On umuntu onjalo ke lithi "ubuntu banemizwa engqubuzanayo." Hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi kuba isifo sengqondo, mhlawumbe kungcono nje accentuation uhlamvu. Okusho ukuthi, uma kuqhathaniswa "ngokwesilinganiso" umuntu onjalo kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuthi babe umuzwa okuphambene, uzoqala ukuxhumana eyinkimbinkimbi awukwazi ukuchaza isikhundla bayo uma buqhathaniswa noma ubani nanoma yini.