Ukwenza isivumelwano somshado

Phakathi neminyaka eyishumi edlule okhela mpikiswano esingathí sina Umdwebo kuze yesivumelwano umshado. Abanye baphikisa ngokuthi lena panacea ngokumelene Yimpi kungenzeka kwenzeka bembuza ngesehlukaniso, okuvumela kunoma isiphi isimo ukulondoloza ubuhlobo nobungane. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi ekukhishweni yesivumelwano umshado ngaphambi komshado kuphambene nezimiso eziyisisekelo somshado, okufanele aphume uthando, kodwa hhayi nge ukubala abandayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi laliyini, imibhangqwana kaningi washada ezweni lethu asayina lesi sivumelwano ngosuku olwandulela yokubhalisa noma ngokushesha ngemuva.

Kuyini lokhu ncwadi? Inkontileka umshado - inkontileka elawula ukusatshalaliswa impahla ngokuhlanganyela ekhona ngemva kokwehlukana. Ngeke alawule siqu amalungelo nemisebenzi abashadayo, isibonelo, lokulawula oda kosuku, noma, njengoba bathanda ukukhuluma ezinye wags, ubude ocansini.

Iqiniso liwukuthi ukwehluleka izimo ezinjalo kuba nzima ukufakazela futhi kunzima nakakhulu ukuphoqelela saziso ukuba abantu babulawelwe kuzo. Futhi, kungenzeka ukuthi ubeke umkhawulo amandla wezomthetho abashadayo, akunakwenzeka, isibonelo, ukufaka into kuwo ukuthi uma kwenzeka isahlukaniso, unkosikazi akakwazi ukusebenzisa umyeni wakhe enkantolo ukulwela amalungelo azo. Ukwenza isivumelwano somshado engabondli abakubo ingxenye impahla zangaphambi somshado noma umnikelo okuholela. Qeda it noma nini, kodwa kuphela ngenkululeko bobabili.

Obani abazuzayo ekukhishweni yesivumelwano emshadweni? Endaweni yokuqala - omunye abashadayo engena okubizwa ngokuthi umshado ukungalingani. Ngamafuphi nje, lapho indoda noma umfazi kuba acebile kakhulu kunalokho neengcezu yabo: elikhudlwana ayezolithola futhi uyazicabangela igalelo lalo isabelomali ingqikithi obubaluleke kakhulu. Okuvame kakhulu kukho - indoda, kukasomabhizinisi wekhaya. Nokho, kukhona medium kahle amadoda abanikela ukuze bangena esivumelwaneni umshado, funa ngenxa yezizathu zobugovu ku ingxenye omkawo. Kwenzeka ukuthi ngesikhathi alinganayo ngenzuzo okomnikelo omunye abashadile impahla kuzidlula okomnikelo nezinye. Ngokwesibonelo, ngenxa ekuqongeleleni noma prenuptial ifa etholwe. Le ndlu wathola ngemva kokufa kwabazali babo, kuzofundwa impahla kuphela umlingani ngubani uyindlalifa futhi ngeke impahla ngokuhlanganyela. Kodwa uma ukusidayisa bese usebenzisa imali ukuze sandise isikhala ephilayo (isibonelo, ukuthenga indlu) nge eliqinisekisiwe encane noma mahhala extra ke impahla ezocatshangelwa ngokuhlanganyela aluthola, ngisho noma ngakolunye uhlangothi ke usise ruble 3. Kulokhu, kuziwa imvume usizo yesivumelwano umshado, lapho ungacacisa ukuthi uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso, izindlu kuphela uthole ohlangothini ukuthi ukubeka imali kuwo noma ukuba mbaxa-mbili noma iyiphi enkulu (okungenani 1/20 futhi 19/20). Kungenjalo konke isehlukaniso izohlukaniswa ngesigamu.

Kukanjani ukubhalisa yesivumelwano emshadweni? Abathintekayo abaphendukela ummeli owayengumnikazi kuyabasiza ukufinyelela esivumelwaneni. Ukuze bachithe, awukwazi kutholakala kuphela ngesikhathi ukusayina, kodwa futhi ikusasa impahla, isibonelo, abonisa ukuthi yiziphi izingxenye ke izohlukaniswa at yesehlukaniso. Ukwenza isivumelwano kwenzeka ngaphambi ummeli olungisa izivumelwano, futhi njengoba kuziwa kuphela kusukela ngesikhathi sokubhalisa. Uma umbhangqwana wasayina inkontileka umshado, futhi ngemvume ehhovisi lokubhalisa kanye akazange ashade, futhi emva kwesikhashana abasha ukumikisa run, ukuhlukaniswa kwempahla ngokuhlanganyela kuyoba isimiso 'komunye wayo njengomalusi "(njengoba emshadweni evamile civil).

Ngokuvamile, ngaleso ukusayina yesivumelwano umshado, kwabashadile kungenzeka ukubhalisa isithakazelo sabo impahla ngokuhlanganyela, ukwaba impahla ethile, okuzokwenza iya kuwo wonke umuntu uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso (isib, efulethini - nomkakhe, imoto egalaji - indoda), ukunquma okomnikelo ngamunye isabelomali jikelele, ngakho futhi engenayo nomunye.