Ukuziqhenya kungukuthi ... Ukuziqhenya kwamuntu

Umqondo wokuziphendulela uqobo ungene ngokugcwele empilweni yethu yansuku zonke. Abantu abaningi bayacabangela ngokujulile ukuthi bangaziqonda kanjani ngokugcwele ukuthi bangabanikazi babo. Isayensi yanamuhla yengqondo iye yafakazela ukuthi amathuba okuba umuntu angenakuphela futhi angenamkhawulo.

Ngamanye amazwi, kaningi asikusoli ukuthi yikuphi amandla angaphakathi aphezu kwegobolondo lethu elingokwenyama, isimiso esingokomoya esibalulekile sidinga ukuziveza. Abanye bathi ukuqala komphefumulo, abanye bakhuluma ngesidingo sokuziphendulela. Ngenye indlela, kodwa ukubonakaliswa kweqiniso okuyiqiniso kuyadingeka ukuba umuntu ngamunye ahlale evumelana naye kanye nezwe elizungezile.

Umbono we-self-actualization

Umuntu wokuqala owazisa lo mqondo nguK. Goldstein. Usosayensi wakha igama elithi "ukuziphendulela". Lokhu kuyisimo esikhethekile sokuqaphela, lapho izidingo zokuqaphela ukudala, ukudalulwa kwamakhono omuntu, ukukhululwa kwamathuba kuqala. Umuntu oye wazizwa isidingo sokuziphendulela ngokwakhe uzokwenza konke ukufeza umgomo wakhe, kufaka phakathi ukunqoba izithiyo ezihlangene, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukudumala, ukushiya ukungabaza nokukhathazeka ngemuva.

Abraham Maslow

Abafundi be-Faculty of Psychology kusukela ngonyaka wokuqala bayazi izimpondo ezidumile zezidingo zika- Abraham Maslow. Phakathi kweminye imikhakha ebalulekile yobuntu, isinyathelo esihlukile siwukuzikhohlisa. UMaslow wakhuluma ngesidingo somuntu ukuze aqaphele isiphetho sakhe. Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Lokhu kusho ukuthi ube nethuba lokuvula ngokugcwele ngokwakho nakukuphila komphakathi, ukubonisa wena endabeni ebaluleke kakhulu kumuntu ngamunye.

U-Abraham Maslow ugcizelela ukuthi ukuziphendulela komuntu kuncike kuye kuphela, futhi akukwazi ukushintshwa ngaphansi komthwalo womunye. Ngamunye wethu unomsebenzi wethu, ibhizinisi lethu, ithalente, okumele siyiqaphele kuleli zwe. Ngenxa yalokhu siza kuleli zwe. Indaba enjalo ebalulekile yembula kumuntu isisekelo sayo sangempela kanye nesimo somuntu ngamunye wegama elithi "self-actualization". Izinkulumo ze-Maslow ngalokhu.

Ukuziqhenya ngesikhathi sokukhula

Ubudala obusha akulula, futhi umuntu akakwazi ukuvumelana nalokhu. Ngalesi sikhathi ukuthi izimiso nezisekelo zemibono mayelana nezwe zibekwe ngendlela entsha, kusukela ekuziqondeni nakwabanye, ukubuka umhlaba kuvezwe, ukuziphendulela kwakha. Yingakho intsha eningi eminyakeni eyishumi nantathu noma leshumi nesikhombisa ibonisa ukuphikelela ngokweqile, ukubekezelelana, ngisho nokuhlukunyezwa. Mayelana nabantu abasha kule nkathi kaningi bathi bangama- maximimalists. Lokhu kusho ukuthi isidingo sokuzibonakalisa ngaphakathi kubo siseduze kakhulu nomqondo wezinto kanye nendlela le mhlaba isebenza ngayo. Isibonelo, uma insizwa inayo ithalenta yomculi, khona-ke uzoyiqaphela kule minyaka yobukhulu kakhulu njengoba ekholelwa enhlanhleni yakhe. Uma engacaciswanga phakathi kontanga, ehleka emsebenzini wakhe, imidwebo, okungukuthi, kunethuba eliphezulu lokuthi ngeke abe nesibindi sokuziqhenya ngokuphumelelayo kule nkathi yentuthuko. Lapho uneminyaka eyi-15 kuya kweyishumi nesikhombisa, ithonya lontanga ngokuzibona lisahle, kanti imibono yabo ingaba ibaluleke kakhulu.

Ukuziqhenya kubantu abasha

Sikhuluma ngabantu abadala abadala abangazange bafike kubantu abadala kuphela, kodwa ngubani oye wazuza umsebenzi noma ufunda emayunivesithi. Le nkathi yentuthuko ibonakala ngesifiso sokuzimela, ukuqinisekiswa kwemibono yabo, ukubonakaliswa kwemibono nesibindi.

Isidingo sokwenza izinto ngokuzenzakalelayo siphezulu kakhulu. Isibonelo, uma ngalesi sikhathi umuntu osemusha eqala ukusebenza, ke ufuna ukufeza impumelelo ethile, ukuze aphakamise izinga eliphezulu lomsebenzi. Lesi sikhathi sithandeka kakhulu ekuziqapheleni, ngoba izifiso ezinempilo zizokwenza izenzo ezinqumayo, ziholele ekufezeni okusha. Lapho usemusha, ukuziphendulela akuyona nje isidingo, kodwa kuyisici esibalulekile sokwakhiwa kobuntu.

Ukuzibheka ngokuzenzakalelayo kumuntu ovuthiwe

Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu omdala ngokugcwele, umuntu obanjwe ngumuntu angazizwa engenandaba nendawo - hhayi endaweni yakhe emisebenzini ayenzayo, ukubhekana nobunzima empilweni yakhe lapho ekwakheni ubuhlobo. Ukuziqhenya komuntu okwalesi sikhathi kuncike ekutheni umuntu uvumela kanjani ukwenza lokho akuthandayo. Ngokuvamile, ukuvuthwa, abantu abaningi "behlisa umoya" futhi bavame ukuma lapho. Uma lesi sikhundla esiphakeme, abange balwela ukufunda izinto ezintsha, bayeka ukwenza ukuzifunda. Uma umuntu engakutholanga ukuzibonela kwangempela ngaphambi kwalesi sikhathi, kuba kuba buhlungu ukucabanga ngakho, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uzokhetha ukuvala lesi sihloko ngokwakhe, ukhethe ukucwiliswa ngomkhuba, ngemuva kokuba konke kuphephile futhi kukhululekile. Ngakho lo muntu emsebenzini unesithukuthezi, angafundi izinto ezintsha, angatholi amakhono engeziwe.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, yile nkathi yentuthuko engaba yiklamo elihle kakhulu yokuhola futhi iholele umuntu ekufezeni okuthile, uma umuntu efuna ukuguqula impilo yakhe futhi enze imizamo ebalulekile. Ukuzibheka ngobuntu kungukugcina "insimbi yokuxwayisa", isignali eholela ekuguqulweni.

Injabulo yokuba yilokho oyikho

Mhlawumbe othile uthi ngeke akwazi ukuzitholela ngokugcwele impilo yakhe. Kule ndaba, kubantu abanjalo, ukuzithokozisa ngokuyinhloko kuyinhlawulo engatholakali lapho bengenaso isibindi sokukhuphuka. Ukuze uhlale uhamba ngendlela oyidingayo, kudingeka isibindi esithile. Phela, uma kwenzeka ukwehluleka, ngokuqinisekile uzodingeka uphendule ngaphambi kwakho. Futhi bangakwazi futhi ukuzungeza "umbukiso wesinwe": tshela, akusebenzi, bheka, ngaphambi kokulahlekelwa okuphelele. Induduzo encane ukuthi bahleka indoda ehlulekile, ngokuvamile labo abangakaze bazenze noma yikuphi ukuzama ukuziqhenya. Umuntu oye wabhekana nezinkinga ezifanayo, okungenani uzozama ukusiza ngezeluleko, futhi ekusizeni okungcono, usizo.

Naphezu kwazo zonke izinkinga, okungahlangabezane nanoma yikuphi umuntu ozokwazi ukubhukuda "ukubhukuda okukhululekile", ukunyakaza kokuziphendulela kuyafaneleka. Ekugcineni uzothola umvuzo kuwo wonke umsebenzi onzima nobunzima obusadingeka ubekezelele. Ngoba ayikho injabulo enkulu emhlabeni ngaphandle kokwazi ukuthi ugcwalisa ikusasa lakho futhi uphile ngeze.

Umzwelo wokunqoba kanye nenjabulo yomnqobi

Labo kuphela abafinyelela izinga eliphakeme emsebenzini wabo bahlangabezana nomqondo omkhulu wokwaneliseka nokuthula. Umuntu onjalo uyazi kahle ukuthi kungani ephila, futhi ukuhlala kwakhe ngeke kubonakale kungenanzuzo kuye, uma nje kunomgogodla wangaphakathi lapho konke kugcina khona. Isidingo sokuzivuselela ngokwakho Ivela kuwo wonke umuntu. Kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu owaziyo ukufezekisa isimo esenza konke okuphuphayo ngakho.

Isitsha esigcwele

Uma ufinyelela ukuphakama okuthile ebhizinisini nanoma yiliphi elinye ibhizinisi elidinga izindleko zezinsiza zangaphakathi, awugcini nje uzizwe ungumnqobi, kodwa uziqinisa ngokweqile ngokwakho, ungakha izinhlelo eziqinile, amaphupho okufeza okulandelayo.

Kudala umuzwa wokuthi ubambe umhlaba wonke owaziyo futhi owamukelayo. Ukunqoba komuntu ukuvumela umuntu azizwe ebalulekile, okudingekayo, okudingekayo.

Ukuziqhenya ngokwezifiso

Omunye angacabanga nje ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa okungokomoya okukhulu ekudalweni kwemisebenzi yabo kuhlangene nabantu abasebenzisa ubuciko: abalobi, izimbongi, abaculi, abaculi. Kubo, ukuziphendulela kuyisimo sokuphila, umoya abaphefumulayo. Thatha kubo leli thuba - bayothatha amahloni. Eqinisweni, ukuziphendulela kuhlale kuhlobene nokuklama, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu wenzani, ngoba kufanele abonise isimo sangempela, azikhethele ngokuzikhethela izimpawu, amanani, amathuluzi, azoqondiswa esikhathini esizayo.

Ngakho-ke, umqondo wokuziphendulela uqobo uhlanganisa nesifiso sokuziqhenya kanye nesidingo sokuziveza ngokwakho. Abantu abanesithakazelo nabanethalente, yebo, kulula ukuzikhethela bona insimu yomsebenzi. Kodwa noma ngabe awusona uShakespeare, ungakhohlwa mayelana nokuzikhethela kwakho, ukuthi kungabonakaliswa ngesifiso sakho.