Lo mndeni - umbuso obuswa Love!

Ngakho, emhlabeni kucatshangwa ukuthi ovamile - kungcono qiniseka abazali abangashadile labanebantfwana. Imindeni lapho umzali oyedwa, ziyakuyela ngokuzenzakalela ku esigabeni "engaphelele '," akuphelele "noma ngisho imindeni" enezinkinga. " Ngavele ukubeka phambili umbono okuphambene.

Inombolo amalungu omndeni akusho izinga layo. Strong, umkhaya ojabulayo ujabule - kuba iqembu elincane lapho wonke umuntu ukhululekile. Futhi ukuba khona abazali bazo zombili izinhlobo zobulili akuyona inkomba yokuthi izinga ubudlelwane phakathi kwawo.

Yiqiniso, ubaba olulodwa noma umama, ukukhulisa umntwana bebodwa, kunzima kakhulu ukunikeza izingane imfundo ukwahlukahlukana. Kodwa impela ezingabizi! Baningi omama owanikhipha emangalisayo, nime isibindi, amadodana wokuzidela. Futhi Pope kukhona labo abasiza namadodakazi abo zikhula uhlobo, umnene, umngenisi wezihambi omuhle futhi omama abakhathalelayo. Omunye umbuzo, kuyini kunomvuzo ... Kodwa sikhuluma manje hhayi ngakho.

Abaningi ukubeka phambili mqondo ukuthi evamile, umndeni "wangempela" - umkhaya othile lapho kunezingane. isiphakamiso Nalapha impikiswano.

Kubazali abaningi, enabantwana kuyadingeka ngempela ukuze uzizwe sengathi umndeni agcwele. Kodwa kukhona labo abangababiziweyo izingane ngokuphelele akudingeki, banayo ngomunye nomunye umuzwa ojulile ezimpilweni zabo zigcwele lokusungula, umsebenzi, self-ngcono. Ngisho nasekugugeni, amabili basamthanda nezinye, ngamunye ukwesekwa, uzwela.

Ngaphandle kokuba umuntu unelungelo lokubumba noma lokuba bayabagxeka ke? Ikakhulukazi ngoba akuzona zonke imindeni enezingane, ungakwazi ukuziqhayisa ukuqonda nobungane uzinzo ithimba labo elincane.

Kunenye "inganekwane" of the fortune emndenini, okuyinto Ngithanda ababhubhise. Abazali abaningi ukubeka phambili postulate ukuthi umkhaya ojabulayo - kungcono omunye lapho izingane baqiniseka okunempilo kuphela.

Yiqiniso, ukubheka ukuhlupheka kothandekayo - test akuyona imiphefumulo ababuthakathaka. Nokho, emikhayeni enjalo ukubhalisa esigabeni "izingozi", "enezinkinga" - iphutha elikhulu. Ngicabanga obaluleke ngaphezu khona omunye amalungu omkhaya yokukhubazeka ngokomzimba, futhi isimo sengqondo sazo zonke lonke kepha umbhalela njengomfowabo umuntu.

Isibonelo kuqinisekisa agumenti yami ukuthi kungaba umkhaya ojabulayo lapho kukhona abantu abakhubazekile, kanye iqiniso lokuthi okuthiwa umndeni "akuphelele" onelungelo ukuba sijabule, ngisho enhle, uzosebenza njengenhloko indzaba umama nendodana.

Wayeneminyaka engu-8 kuphela ubudala lapho unina sasishwabene. Wayeka ukuhamba, ukukhuluma, ukudla kanye ugqoke. Pope wayesenze amaphutha endaweni ethile ngokuphepha wahlala, ukukhohlwa ngokuphelele mayelana owayeyintombi yakhe nendodana.

Kungashiwo ngokuthi sokuhamba kusukela amashwa umndeni? Kunalokho, amashwa kwaba ukuthi ukuhamba kwakhe kwenzeka emva kwesikhathi ... Ngakho kusukela umndeni 'wagcwala' futhi nabazali ababili umama nendodana wathuthela isigaba "emindenini single umzali", "enezinkinga." Noma kunjalo, zahumusha: kodwa manje bangibonile kuzixazulule injabulo, ukuthula nothando!

Kodwa nobunzima yokuphila kwasemshadweni, njenge: kushaywa, ukuqwasha, umsebenzi onzima ngodenariyu, okuyinto waqhubeka umyeni ukucula oludakayo - ukukhunjuzwa ngokwabo. Okuthusayo labasibekela ukukhanya. Umama wagula. Boy wayefuna ukuthatha yokukhosela, kumdedisele kude umuntu emndenini kuphela.

Umakhelwane wangenela. Yena esikhishwe ukuthi ingane izohlala nobani. Umfana zonke Ukunakekela Omama nawo emahlombe abo. Lapho ngineminyaka engu-9 ubudala ugeza yena kanye feeds unina kusukela spoon, esandleni kwenza kube sithi ukulula izinyawo, uhlezi esihlalweni sabakhubazekile, ngingakwazi ukwenza massage, ukukhuluma kanye alupheli sokuvuma uthando lwakhe kuye wamanga esandleni sakhe.

Umkhaya - lokhu umbuso, okuyinto libuswa uthando! Umama wafunda ukuma, kusho umusho wokuqala ngemuva kosuku esesabekayo ihlukaniswe ukuphila ku "phambi" futhi "ngemva." Lawa kwakungamadodana mazwi: "Mina ... uthando ... wena ..."

Enye intatheli wafunda ngazo, uzilungiselele umbiko. Ithelevishini nomthelela yokuthi umfana - lokhu iqhawe, indoda enkulu, ubuntu nesibindi okungenakudanjiswa ngenhliziyo omkhulu ngothando, nangamandla amakhulu kwengqondo - wafunda lonke lelo zwe. Namuhla, zinaka abantu abanethonya futhi wakuthola, umama ulungiselela ukusebenza, okuyinto, ngokusho odokotela, nakanjani ukusiza, njengoba ikhona inqubekela phambili.

Lokho - umkhaya wangempela, umndeni kwesokudla, umkhaya wangempela. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi singakanani izingane zakhe ukuthi bonke abazali bekwi imfundo wenzalo, kungakhathaliseki kukhona ingcebo kangangokuthi zonke ziphilile - lena umndeni, hhayi esasinedumela elibi, "ingqamuzana", bhalisiwe ephepheni.

Futhi inganekwane lokugcina mayelana nalokho umndeni kufanele kubhekwe abasha. Namuhla esethula nenqubo yobudala izinzuzo ekutholeni izindlu "imikhaya abasha." Iqale ukujika kungenzeka kuphela ukufeza omunye abashadayo iminyaka 36. Ngikholwa ukuthi akulungile.

umndeni Young - umndeni ukuthi eyambumbayo kungekho eminyakeni eminingi ngaphambili kuka 8 edlule, ngaphandle owakwakhe ubudala. Kungani 8 hhayi 5 noma 6?

Zokusebenza kwengqondo nezokuhlalisana kwabantu bangase baphikise ngokuthi imibhangqwana ekuqa- iminyaka 7 ngokuvamile aphule. Ngakho-ke, ngalesi sikhathi idinga ukusekelwa ekhethekile, kokubili impahla nezingokwengqondo.

Zonke esashiwo kimi - IMHO. Kodwa-ke umuntu unelungelo lokubamba khona, ukufunda kanye ingxoxo.