Kuyini BDSM: abathandwayo Amaqiniso

ekukhuleni zabantu zanamuhla ezingeni eliphezulu, Nokho, abantu abaningi basazibuza Angazi ukuthi BDSM. Iningi esithi ngokwayo kuyenyanyeka, ngendlela efanayo nelithi impendukezelo esabekayo okuhloswe ngaso ukuhlazeka futhi kuthuke umlingani wabo ngokusebenzisa ubuhlungu ngokomzimba.

Nokho, ukwenqaba ingqikithi ukugeleza akagcini abantu abanentshisekelo yini BDSM. Kwanele ukubona isibalo imibuzo injini yokusesha kuwebhu, ukuqaphela ukuthi isihloko sihambisana kakhulu namuhla. Ngakho, sekuyisikhathi yokususa ukumelwa esezingeni abantu balesi uhlobo lobuhlobo. Eqinisweni, S & M ingenye amafomu eliphakeme ukwethenjwa kumlingani wakho, ngoba uqhubeka ulalela ngokugcwele konke akushoyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, okuyizona uthola amandla aphelele kanye ungenza nomlingani wakho noma yini ayithandayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, it has umthwalo omkhulu ngoba umehluko phakathi injabulo empilweni mncane kakhulu.

Uma umuntu ukubuza, yini Ukugqilazwa, emcabangweni wakhe, njengoba umthetho, kukhona isithombe sendoda ingubo isikhumba ngesiswebhu esandleni sakhe, uthola injabulo ngokuzwisa ubuhlungu. Bambalwa abantu abaziyo ukuthi yimuphi umdlalo Ekwenza Umlingiswa, lapho omunye umlingani obusa amanye, kakade kungokwalabo esigabeni ka BDSM. Ngakho-ke, ingabe akukhona ngempela ukuthi ubuhlungu nomngane wakhe, umbhangqwana ngamunye nje ichaza ubuso bakho futhi uzimele. Ubuhlobo BDSM isekelwe emithethweni ezintathu eziyinhloko:

1. Ozakwethu ungene ubudlelwane ezinjalo njalo yokuzithandela, okungukuthi, kukhona ezinye isivumelwano phakathi kwabo mayelana imingcele kuvunyelwe. Hamba ngaphezu kwe-ukuzijabulisa okwamukelekayo evelele akuvumelekile.
2. Lo mbhangqwana angasebenzisa noma iyiphi izesekeli for the BDSM, okuyinto, kufanele kuphawulwe, abaningi zidayiswa okukhethekile ezitolo. Nokho, kuzo zonke izinyathelo okufanele babe abacabangelayo futhi kahle wacabanga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abangane oyi-setha okuthiwa stop amazwi. Futhi uma okuyizona yayigabadela kuvunyelwe noma Saab ufuna uphazamisa inqubo yokubhala, kwanele ukusho izwi, bonisa-ephumula isenzo. Lokhu waphinda kuqinisekisa ukuthi ngempela ebuhlotsheni BDSM zisekelwe izithakazelo mutual izifiso lomuntu ngamunye ziyabhekelelwa.
3. Futhi-ke, ebaluleke kakhulu - ukulondeka. Kuyinto imfihlo ukuthi sadomasochism ivumela imidlalo efana ngibopha noma ukuhlukumeza, ngakho udaba sokuphepha we umlingani usendaweni yokuqala. Dominants kufanele kube ngokuphelele ngaphansi kokulawula ukugcina umlingani, njengoba yokugcina angase awele uhlobo ukushaqeka kusukela uhla emizweni engavamile.

Lapho echaza lokho ubuhlobo BDSM, ngifuna uqaphele ukuthi zingakubonisi njalo zihlanganisa oqondile ocansini. Okungukuthi, abangabantwana umlingani ungathola ukwaneliseka kokuzama sokuhlushwa isitaki noma ukusebenzisa izisekeli ekhethekile. A evelele, esikhundleni salokho, uthola injabulo yangempela kusukela sizizwe siphakeme abo namandla. Kuvele Eqinisweni ezithakazelisayo wukuthi kule subculture mayelana 80% abesifazane abaqokelwe indima Saabs noma izigqila, okungukuthi, yisifiso sokulalela amadoda futhi ngempela Wawujabulela.