Kanjani ukuze usinde owakwakhe isehlukaniso?

Isehlukaniso - ngaso sonke isikhathi ebhizinisini ezingemnandi ukuthi lidinga imicikilisho namaphepha, imizwa, izinyembezi nokuphelelwa ithemba ngobuqotho. abantu Amazing ngenxa yezizathu eziningi, kungaba ukungathembeki banal, kanye ngokuxabana njalo futhi amahlazo, kanye nokuntuleka nobunye ubulili, nezinye izici eziningi. Yiqiniso, isehlukaniso akufanele asebenzise kuphela ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu lapho kungoni umfazi noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo umndeni kungasiza ekulondolozweni umndeni. Imibuzo - ukuthi uyobhekana kanjani isehlukaniso futhi ukuthi kungenzeka ukugwema ke, kukhona eziningi izimpendulo, eqinisweni, bangaki abantu - imicabango yabantu abaningi kangaka kuleli zwe. Kwabanye abantu, isehlukaniso - lena ejwayelekile, wedlula ngokushesha futhi kalula, kodwa ukuthi uyobhekana kanjani isehlukaniso ngoba labo lo mqondo iba ukucindezeleka ezimbi ngokomzwelo? Okokuqala, kubalulekile waphinda ukuzama "ukuqala kabusha", futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyini imbangela nehlazo - le monotony wokuphila, oshade naye, ngobuqili noma enihlela ngayo izinto njengomkhaya evamile. Abashade kudingeka baqonde yalesi sizathu, ukukhuluma kanye bafinyelela esiphethweni ukuthi konke Ungashintsha. Uma isizathu isehlukaniso kuba evamile "okunamathiselwe" lapho komkayo esetshenziswa nomunye, safunda elakwa hambisa ngamunye senzo usebenza nomyeni wayo, khona-ke ungakwazi nje ukuvuselela imizwa ubudala, ehlukahlukene ubudlelwano babo. Kodwa kukhona omunye umbuzo - ukuthi uyobhekana kanjani isehlukaniso, uma umndeni unezingane? Phela, unina womntwana ngokuhlukana upapa iba eziyingozi kakhulu empilweni. indoda Little awukwazi nje ngokomzwelo ukuphazamisa engqondweni yakhe, ngemva kokuhlukana kwabazali 'kungabangela nemiphumela emibi ngendlela efanayo esikhathini esizayo. Ngokuvamile ngemva kokwehlukana ingane ihlala nonina, ngokuba ubaba wasebenzisa into efana "ubaba ngempelasonto." Lo mntwana nzima kakhulu ukujwayela indawo entsha, endaweni entsha ngaphandle uma ungumzali ongayedwa. It eba sebunzimeni obukhulu ngokomzwelo, kuba ukuhluthuka futhi nolaka. Bese kuthi-ke kuphakama umbuzo - indlela ukusiza ingane yakho ngokusebenzisa isehlukaniso mene esibuhlungu? Phela, izingane ezincane ukucindezeleka yesehlukaniso kungathinta hhayi kuphela inhlalakahle, kodwa futhi ku ukugaya nokuphumula nokulala. Kulokhu-ke kuyadingeka ukuze wenze izenzo ezithile:

- beqhubeka nokuqapha isimiso sansuku zonke umntanakho, ukuhamba, ageze, okuphakelayo, bese ngiyolala ngezikhathi ezithile;

- ukuze aphendule yonke imibuzo ngokwethembeka, ingane bungaba ngaphezu kwamandla abazali ngemibuzo ngesahlukaniso, kufanele kamnandi bese uphendula ngendlela engacunuli kuye. Indlela ukusinda isehlukaniso nengane? - udinga ukutshela ingane ukuthi ubaba nomama wakhe kakhulu othanda, kodwa namanje uhlala ndawonye, ngeke baze bakwazi ukuwenza. Kuyadingeka ukuba ahlohle kid ukuthi wonke umzali izodlala naye futhi simthande njengoBaba okuningi njengasekuqaleni naleso sehlukaniso;

- njalo ukudlala ingane, hhayi ukulahlekelwa ukuxhumana omunye umzali, noma ngabe isehlukaniso "bengavumelani", akudingekile lapho ingane lokusola ubaba (umama) ukuwakhaphela, ukoniwa noma babukise kuye. Ngesinye isikhathi kuyadingeka ukuba bonke ndawonye ukuqonda umntanakho isidingo;

- Gwema izingxabano ngomntanakhe, umntwana usuke engakabi wayibona noma wezwa kusuka umama nobaba wakhe lokulwa. Angase athole umbono wokuthi ukuxabana kungenxa yakhe.

Ngokulandela lezi zidingo, kungenzeka ukuba ukubhekana nalesi simo kakhulu ukusiza ingane. Indlela ukusinda isehlukaniso umkakho noma umyeni wakhe? Kunezindlela eziningana, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke kubalulekile ukuba acabangele umbono we obeshade, lalela iseluleko izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, umfowethu onomoya ophansi nocabangelayo.

Ukuze ugweme isehlukaniso, ungakwazi iphendukele usizo ezifana into ukuphila isikhathi esithile ngaphandle nomunye. Kulokhu, abashadayo banikwa isikhathi sokucabanga konke esecabanga kabusha ngokucophelela imibono yakhe futhi ukuqonda - yini noma cha ahlukanise. Okwesikhashana ekamelweni elihlukile - kuba yinto enhle, ngoba nganoma yisiphi isikhathi kungenzeka ukufaka isehlukaniso, futhi ungahlala ukuqala ubuhlobo obusha "ubudala".