Ufuna ukushada ngoSuku Valentine sika? Uyoba nethuba elingcono yesehlukaniso

Wena ungomunye walabo imibhangqwana wasebenzisa ukucabanga ukuthi uSuku Valentine kuyinto romantic ikakhulukazi? Wena ngisho kungenzeka ukuthi wacabanga ngezinye indlela ukushada ngalolo suku, noma okunye ukhethe enye usuku engenamsebenzi ukuthi ine ekhethekile ukubaluleka isihawu ngawe ezimbili? Hhayi, angizisoli nakancane. Kungcono asuke izimemo lomshado.

Lokho ososayensi bathi ku isifundo esisha,

Ngokusho entsha ukusebenza iphepha zezomnotho kusukela University of Melbourne, imishado, okuyinto ezazidlalwa Day Valentine noma ezinye izinsuku ezikhethekile, kuhlanganise ilayisensi (isibonelo, 01.02.03), babe kusuka 18 kuya 36% maningi amathuba elikhulu lokuphela ngesahlukaniso kunalawo okwenzeka ngo-i suku okwejwayelekile. Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi u-11% imibhangqwana abaye benana izifungo ngosuku lwezithandani, isivele iminyaka engu yesihlanu kukhona ngesehlukaniso. Ngu iminyaka engu-lesishiyagalolunye kakade 21% ngazimbili enjalo kuhluke bangajabuli.

Ngokufanayo, abantu abashadile abazama ukumemezela uthando labo laphakade phambi kofakazi at usuku ezifana 12.12.12, akakwazi ngokuthi model of sibe yisivumelwano esiphakade. Eminyakeni emihlanu ngemva kwalokhu suku olwaba olubaluleke kakhulu 10% wabo awe. Ngemva kweminyaka engu-9 kakade 19% abahlukanisile.

Sikhishwe yokuthi usuku "elikhethekile" uwela kahlanu emishadweni eminingi, thina ngokungagwegwesi inani elikhulu labantu abahlukanisayo. Nakuba lokhu nokucabanga kungase kubonakale kungazwakali, kodwa ukuhlanganisa, yebo, kukhona. Akumangazi-ke ukuthi isifundo ngqa emhlabeni.

Ngokuphambene,% 8 kuphela abantu abashadile abazama Bangene umshado ngosuku evamile, washintsha ngemuva kweminyaka eyisihlanu. On lesishiyagalolunye iminyaka engu-16% imishado iphela kangaka nje.

Nokho, ucwaningo wagxila kuphela kwi-Dutch, ngakho ngisho ngabe kukhona ukuhlobana phakathi lezi izinsuku ezikhethekile futhi zonakalise ukuphupha ngothando, mhlawumbe okungokukaNkulunkulu kuphela kubo. Noma kunjalo, ukuhlaziya iqembu lososayensi kuyinto ukuhlola poslesvadebnoy yezinganekwane abangaphezu kwesigidi ngazimbili, ngakho-ke, akunakwenzeka ukuba khona kwenzeka idatha nenkohlakalo.

Ngabe kukhona yini ukuxhumana esiyimbangela

Yiqiniso, ukuhlanganisa akusho ubuhlobo imbangela nemphumela, futhi uma ungeyena bakholelwe ezeni, kusobala ukuthi usuku ayikanye eliyingozi. Le miphumela lososayensi ngokwezinga elikhulu ngenxa yokuthi kungani imibhangqwana umkhethe njengomngane womshado kulezi zinsuku.

Abantu abafuna ukuhlela emshadweni usuku olukhethekile ngaphezulu mhlawumbe ukuze ashade ekuseni, futhi cishe eziningi sebenalo izingane. umshado Langaphambilini noma ukukhulelwa ukwenza ukwandisa amathuba isehlukaniso, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa.

Ngaphezu kwalokho kwatholakala ukuthi Imibhangqwana eshadayo ngosuku ekhethekile, ngaphansi efanayo mayelana nezinhlelo kanye nobudala, uma ziqhathaniswa nalezo yakha umfelandawonye ngezinsuku abavamile. Umehluko omkhulu kule imfundo kanye nobudala, njengoba umthetho, lokhu kuzoba nomthelela nasekwakhiweni isehlukaniso.

Ingabe kuwufanele ingozi?

Ngakho uma ungenawo izingane ngaphambi kokushada, nobabili abazalwa eyishumi efanayo, futhi abe ezingeni lelifana wezemfundo, kungenzeka kulungile, ngisho noma udlala umshado ngosuku lwezithandani. Ekugcineni, abalobi cwaningo uqaphele ukuthi uma ubuhlobo bakho sinamandla ikakhulukazi, wena cishe futhi ukhathazeke usuku lomshado.

Imibhangqwana abashadayo usuku evamile, zingase ngaphezulu athonywe izici ubuhlobo babo futhi ukuhambisana kunalena ezenza kube nezinsuku ezikhethekile.

Ezinye izici ezithinta amathuba isehlukaniso

Khumbula ukuthi kukhona nezinye izinto eziningi ezithinta indlela ukwahlukanisa noma ukungahlukanisi. umehluko omkhulu okhona engenayo, ukungabi kukankosikazi, prohibitively wedding emcimbini ezibizayo, noma enye encane kakhulu, futhi umshado ngokushesha ngemva kokuhlangana bandise amathuba okuba lowo you cha kungaba ndawonye "size sihlukaniswe ukufa wena ingxenye."