Uyini umhawu ngoba indoda nendlela yokubhekana nazo

Ngisho abantu ethule kakhulu futhi agodliwe nemizwelo. Kodwa kuyini ngempela imizwa nokuthi kungani alalelwa kangaka? zokusebenza kwengqondo eziningi zikholelwa ukuthi lokhu ukusabela kokuqala futhi ngokushesha lesi sigameko, into noma umcimbi. Lokhu yinto yesikhashana, okuyinto Nokho, kubaluleke kakhulu umzimba.

Iqiniso lokuthi imizwa ukukhonza njengephayona uhlobo isibuko ukuze izwe ngaphandle. Negative kubonisa ukuthi umuntu onganelisekile isimo, noma into efana it.

Positive, ngakolunye uhlangothi, waba ngokunemba izinqumo nezenzo, bakhonza njengamaphayona uhlobo "isanqante." Kulokhu, lo mizwelo ucishe onamandla. Ngokwesibonelo, ukwesaba usengakwazi lunganqotshwa, kodwa usizi - ngokomzwelo kakhulu namandla kakhulu - zimbi kakhulu ukwedlula ukulawula. Kulokhu, ukwesaba utshela indoda ukuthi wayebhekene ezinye ingozi futhi horror - ukuthi ingozi inkulu kakhulu futhi run kangcono. Wonder ekutshela kwalolo lwazi noma umcimbi ayihambisani iziphetho esenziwe ngaphambili nekucabangela.

Ososayensi baye isikhathi eside nibange ukuthi yini mizwelo futhi zingahlukaniswa, wachaza nokuthi. Ngokuvamile, basuke ihlukaniswe elula eyisisekelo (injabulo, ukudabuka, ukukhathazeka, intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ukumangala nokunyanyisa) ku injabulo-ubuhlungu (kuyofikwa ku izinsana Ngokwesibonelo ikakhulukazi kalula) kanye nabanye abaningi. Kodwa iyini imbangela yalokho bonke babo bavele izenzakalo ukuhambisana futhi okungezona ukuhambisana, kanye nezidingo kwemvelo engokoqobo futhi izinkolelo womuntu.

Nokho, zikhona ongakhetha nzima. Lokhu, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuxhumana imizwelo, okungukuthi, isipiliyoni ezihlobene ukoma yokuxhumana, ukusondelana ngokomzwelo. Uyini umhawu zalolu hlobo? Bona ukuphoqa abantu ukuba bafune ukuba abangane, uzwela kanye nosizo. Ngo esigabeni esifanayo imizwelo yokuzinikela, lapho abantu ukusiza nokuvikela kumuntu futhi isifiso sokuba nodumo, self-isiqinisekiso, ukuqashelwa nodumo. Ngaphandle kwabo kukhona nemizwelo yothando futhi imizwa elihle umsebenzi, umgomo noma ubuhle ukucatshangelwa. Namanje kukhona imizwa kokuzitika elihlobene ne nokwaneliseka ngezidingo induduzo, ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo, futhi injabulo ukuthathwa noma inqwaba.

Yiziphi imizwa umuntu? Lona amaza lokuqala le abazomhola futhi abaqondise yonke imisebenzi, zingabantu eyinhloko maqondana umcabango kanye isizathu, futhi ngokuvamile uqondise ukuziphatha. Futhi ukuphila ngaphandle kwabo, abantu nje abakwazi, ngoba imizwa ezithinta i-hormone umzimba, iphimbo wonke umzimba futhi kuthinte nomuzwa wenjabulo ukuthola ukuphila okugcwele. Yingakho-ke kubalulekile ukwazi ezindleleni ukulawula imizwelo futhi uzisebenzise ngempumelelo.

Ezinye izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithi kuyalimaza futhi akufanele amaza ukuyiveza. Nokho, ukulawula imizwelo sisadingeka. Phela, nabo basuke kungaba yingozi kwabanye futhi yingozi kumuntu ngokwakhe. Kunezindlela ezintathu sokulawula imizwa. Lokhu, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngomzamo ukushintshela enye into, khetha enye i-object okuhlushwa. Njengomthetho, le ndlela isebenza ngokuphelele, nje kudingeka wenze ezinye umzamo. Indlela yesibili ukushintsha izinkolelo, ngoba kukhona nethonya elinamandla kakhulu endleleni umuntu ubona ulwazi kusuka imvelo. Futhi indlela yesithathu - ukushintsha izitho zomzimba: ukuphefumula, ukuma, ngisho nephimbo kuthinta imicabango yomuntu nemizwelo.

Ngakho, naphezu igunya imizwelo nokuthi umsuka wabo lungekho ngaphansi sizathu, abantu, Nokho, ungakwazi ukulawula kubo futhi anqobe, ukuthola ukuvumelana ubuqotho. Ngempela, engalawuleki, izinkanuko zasendle futhi abhubhise abantu eziyingozi futhi sithole amandla phezu kwazo kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuba uphile ukuphila okujabulisayo futhi ekufezeni.