Incwadi yokubhalela umngane

Akuwona wonke umuntu onemfundo eyanele kanye nokuhlakanipha okumele akwazi ukushiya, ukushiya impilo yomunye umuntu, hhayi ukugcoba umnyango bese uyishiya ngemuva, kodwa ushiye ukuhlanzeka, ukuhleleka kanye nezinkumbulo ezikhanyayo. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi asikho isibindi ngokwanele sokukhuluma nomuntu othandekayo kanye, ubuso nobuso, ngoba kulokhu ungabhalela umngane ozobe echaza konke. Yiqiniso, lena akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma futhi akuyona indlela efanelwe kakhulu yokuhlehlisa, kepha ngezinye izikhathi azikho ezinye izinketho.

Incwadi yokuhlehlisa kufanele ibheke kanjani kumngane? Lapha, izinhliziyo nezinhlobonhlobo ezihlukahlukene ngeke zifanele, amaconsi wezinyembezi kanye nemibhalo eqoshiwe ngegazi nazo zizobonakala zikhathazekile futhi ziyiziphukuphuku. Nakuba wonke umuntu enesitayela sakhe sokuxhumana nendlela yokuhlukanisa. Incwadi eya kumngani, ongabonanga naye, kufanele ibe laconic, ekhanyayo futhi eqotho. Akufanele kube nokuhlambalaza, ukuhlazeka, zonke izinhlobo zezinto ezimbi. Konke lokhu kuzoba namahloni ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi bafuna ukushintsha konke. Incwadi yalokho kanye nencwadi ongacabanga ngayo yonke into, isisindo, uthathe amagama amahle.

Manje kufanele sixoxe ngezinhlobonhlobo ezimbili zezinhlamvu zokuhlaziya. Esimweni sokuqala, nguwe oyisisulu. Isibonelo, uphuthele, uhlazekile, ushintshiwe, ukhonjwe, uphonywe, futhi ufuna ukuphula ubuhlobo, kodwa uchaza ukuthi ubuhlungu nobubi kangakanani kuwe. Ukhetho lwesibili lunzima kakhulu: isisulu akusiwe. Kufanele uchaze ukuthi kungani uphonsa othandekayo. Futhi kuyodingeka kwenziwe ngendlela efanele ngangokunokwenzeka, ngaphandle kokuyeka ithemba, ngaphandle kokunikeza ithuba lokuvuselelwa kobudlelwane, kungenjalo kuyoba nencazelo engxenyeni yakho.

Esikhathini sokuqala, incwadi eya kumngane owaba ngumthengisi akufanele ibonakale engakhathazeki. Akufanele uqhubeke izinyembezi, wenze i-striptease eqotho futhi uphendule umphefumulo ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Kungenzeka ukuthi uhleka futhi. Kufanele senze ngokunembile, ngokuqondile, ngokupholile, ngenani elihle lokwesaba ukuchazela kumuntu ukuthi akayithandeki kuwe futhi ukuthi ungathanda ukuthula ngokuthula nangokuthula konke ubuhlobo. Akudingekile ukungena kunoma yikuphi ukuvikela nokuxhumana, lokhu ngeke kuholele kunoma yini enhle. Ungabhala phansi ephepheni bese ulinika ngesandla, futhi ungalithumele kuma-network of social networks, ungayifaka ngaphansi kwesihlahla sikaKhisimusi ngokuthi "Incwadi Yonyaka Omusha kumngane ongenayo indawo empilweni yami," noma ungathumela incwadi ngeposi. Ukubhekana nomthengisi kungcono ngokusemthethweni (isibonelo, uSergei, Katerina, u-Olga), ungasebenzisi amagama amancane futhi ungangeni ekuthukeni. Imisho embalwa yanele ukuba ingalokothi ikukhathaze futhi.

Esimweni sesibili, udinga ukulungiselela ngokucophelela. Phela, uzokwenza njengesihlubuki. Kuzodingeka uzame ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze ubambelele ubuhlungu umngane othole le ncwadi ozothola. Kumele kuqashelwe futhi kuphawulwe ukuthi ukuphonsa othile ngokusebenzisa izincwadi noma izincwadi kungenhla, ngakho-ke kuyoba kuhle uma usathola isibindi futhi ukhulume nomuntu siqu. Uma isibindi kungeyona into yakho yokuzilibazisa, ungazikhawulela ukubhala. Umngane owayengumngane wakho, ufunda umlayezo wakho, akufanele athole ama-complex complex and phobias, ngakho-ke kungaba kuhle ukumchazela ukuthi ungumuntu omuhle, futhi wena uyisusa sokuhlukanisa, ngoba "..." (izingxabano ezingaphezulu zingalandelwa).

Ngempela, ungakwazi ukuthola okuhlangenwe nakho kwezigaba ezijwayelekile: funda uMarquez, uZweig, Pushkin, Yesenin, nabanye abalobi abaningi abaphakamisa isihloko sencwadi yokuhlaziya. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba uhambisane nokuhlukana kokuhlukana, uqonde ukuthi awunabo bonke kuleli zwe, ukuthi ngalesi sigaba sokuphila esinzima, abanye abantu, kubandakanya abalobi abanethalente , abadlali abadumile , abaculi bamadwala nabadlali, nabo bahlanganyela. Ukuhlukanisa njalo kulahlekelwa, ukulahleka, kuyizinye izinyembezi nosizi, kodwa lapho, ngaphesheya komkhathi, impilo entsha ishaya, igcwele abantu abajwayele ukujwayela kanye nokuzijabulisa. Incwadi eya kumngane, ngisho nangaphambili, kufanele ibe yinqaba eyokuthatha ukusuka kwelinye ogwini lokuphila kwesinye. Ungesabi ukushisa amabhuloho, ungabuyi emuva, ngoba impilo inhle kakhulu, uma emphefumulweni uzizwa ukuthi wenza into efanele.