Uba kanjani umuntu nobudlelwano - nendlela ukumisa emesaba inkhulumomphendvulwano

Ubudala yokuphila yasedolobheni Imininingwane kuholela yokuthi umuntu uzizwa enesizungu ukuba nabantu. zokuxhumana yethu ayimpoqo inqanyulwa at the stage of imfundo esikoleni - yokufunda ibanga ezikhungweni, umsebenzi ekhaya, ibhizinisi ku-inthanethi - kanye umbuthano ivaliwe amalungu omndeni kuphela eduze. Konke ishintshile: abantu uthanda ukuhlala ekhaya kunokuba ukuphuma epaki, ukuya ebhayisikobho kanye yaseshashalazini. "TV esikhundleni imvelo yami" - Matroskin wathi namanje engu-20 edlule! Futhi ngisho nalapho senimbuso munye angaphezu ezindlini zabo, bakhetha bengahlangabezani esiphikisayo kuqala, ngoba kuyingozi, ngokuvumelana ukwesaba nomphakathi. Ngakho-ke, umbuzo kanjani ukuba abe umuntu okahle, akulula kangako ukuphendula.

Mhlawumbe, uma ufunda ukubheka kahle ku abanye kubantu abavamile nje, kuyacaca ukuthi babe nobudlelwano ngaphezulu. "Kuvalwa" abantu engaqinisekile, ngokuvamile uthukuthele, noma ethukile. Ukudala umbono ubutha ezizungezile imvelo ngamandla ukuthuthukisa abezindaba zethu - zonke lezi izindaba mayelana zingadedeli, serial ababulali, abadlwenguli, anqande noma isiphi isifiso ukuxhumana nhlobo. Kodwa uqalaza: kukhona eduze futhi ngempela abantu ezanele, ngokuvamile enesizungu, ongaceli isidingo ukutshela othile indaba yakho noma umane ukusakaza izwi. Nabo futhi, bakhathazekile mayelana nendlela abe umuntu okahle. Asiqale nge ukuqaliswa elula wemithetho D. Carnegie: Smile! Emigwaqweni ungathola umuntu nice kangaka ezingavamile, evulekile, ukukhanya, smile! Manje kuphela ukuqaliswa mthetho uyokhanga kuwe ukuhlobanisa imibono ka abedlula ngendlela. Futhi kungcono kakhulu ezinhle! Uba kanjani umuntu okahle? Yebo, nje sibheke labo babuka wena. Ukubuka ngesithakazelo, ngokucophelela kodwa ngaphandle kokuhlaziywa. I ekuqinisekisa observation ngisho elula kuzoletha ukuvela okuningi futhi imizwelo eyakhayo. Futhi abantu emhlabeni iyoba eduze futhi eqondakalayo. Ngakho isinyathelo sokuqala - ukufunda ukubona abantu.

Eyesibili isinyathelo - ukuze ufunde indlela tie ingxoxo. Cha, hhayi emgwaqeni noma epaki - esitolo, cafe, ebhange. Ngokuvamile, noma ngabe isimo liyancedisana uqobo ku-exchange of imishwana. Bona ukuthi ezimnandi futhi non-standard, ungakwazi ukutshela umuntu phambi kwakho. Fundisa ngokwakho ukuthi umusho wokuqala ukuze enye inhlangano wafuna siqhubeke sisabela, noma, futhi, nje smile. Ukunqobile ukwesaba kwakho yokuba seduze komunye umuntu kunzima, kodwa engaguquki njalo ukuqeqeshwa zifunde ukwenza isinyathelo sokuqala ukuxhumana ngokwemvelo kalula. By endleleni, lo msebenzi bese benikezela ukuqeqeshwa kwabo zokuxhumana, okuyinto abaholwa ngodokotela abaqeqeshiwe. Njengengxenye Ochwepheshe umsebenzi ukufundisa iqembu ukuba baqonde indlela ukuthi ube umuntu okahle kakhulu, futhi zifezeke inqubo yokuxhumana. Lesi sakamuva kuhlanganisa nobuso, ukunyakaza komzimba, iphimbo - ke akunandzaba abakushoyo, bathi indlela. Futhi ezilotshwe ukuqeqeshwa zokuxhumana, ungathola abantu abanazo kanye nje ukwandisa circle bakho - ngaphandle ukuqeqeshwa eside ezimweni zangempela.

Esinye isinyathelo kungaba ukuxoxa ku-Inthanethi. Lokhu kungolunye uhlobo olukhethekile ukuxhumana nabanye abantu, ngoba thina awuboni futhi ungezwa, futhi basabela kuphela lokho babhala. Abahlukahlukene zingosi zinikeza ezihlukahlukene amaphrojekthi zokuxhumana - futhi ungasebenzisa amagama ngisho ngamanga - nje hlola indlela umphakathi aphendvule okuthunyelwe kwakho, amazwana, futhi izihloko. Amazing ithuba ukuthola unendlela yakhe, isitayela zokuxhumana, ichaze indawo isithakazelo lapho ukukhuluma mnandi futhi ziwusizo. Ngemva ukushintshana ukubukwa - lokhu nokunonophala nhlangothi zombili, okusho ukuthi iqembu ngalinye kumele akwazi ukuletha ku inkhulumomphendvulwano into eyingqayizivele futhi interlocutor ewusizo.

Ekugcineni, uma kungekho ukwesaba abantu, futhi uqiniseka ukuthi ungakwazi niqhube inkhulumomphendvulwano, ngesibindi uqala on olwandle yokuxhumana futhi ujabulele ukubhukuda khulula! Uzobona ngokushesha kakhulu ukuthi eziningi kuyoba ebonga ngalokho uke liqala ukukhuluma. Hhayi-ke, uma behluleka - ngoba lena akuyona inkinga yakho, nokwesaba lomunye umuntu. Simfisela ukuze balukhulume kahle isayensi imicabango mayelana nendlela abe umuntu okahle.