Phakathi naleso sehlukaniso nomuntu umntwana? Bobani izingane lapho abazali bazohlukana?

Isizathu salokhu siwukuthi yonke isehlukaniso mbhangqwana akuyona okwamanje ezinhle ekuphileni kwami, ikakhulukazi uma kunezingane ezincane. Ngezinye izikhathi phakathi amacala ezehlukaniso sake owakwakhe bamshaya indiva imizwa izifiso zezingane. Kubazali kulezi zikhathi kuphela iqoqo elibalulekile amadokhumenti, okuyinto kuyodingeka uma isahlukaniso. Nobani iyona ingane, kungukuthi ikakhulukazi ukhathazeke, enethemba lokuthi konke kuyoba futhi zizoxazululwa ngokuthula.

Ezimweni eziningi, uma umbhangqwana zinhle, ubudlelwane obunobunye futhi bengafuni bonakalise kubo, umbuzo ngokuhlala ingane nomzali ethile ingekho. Ngokuvamile, isehlukaniso senzeka kunzima, kodwa imibhangqwana eminingi ukuphatha ukugcina ubuhlobo obuhle futhi ngezikhathi ezithile "share" ingane yabo.

Empeleni, akuzona zonke ngakho elula. Umbuzo ka ubani kunezingane isehlukaniso abazali, ngezinye izikhathi sidinga ukwahlulela. Lokhu kwenzeka uma umbhangqwana oshadile onezingane ezimbili noma ngaphezulu. Endabeni ingane mayelana nodaba zingaxazululeka ngokuthula futhi buthule.

Wena-ke uthini isehlukaniso kanjani

Phakathi amacala ezehlukaniso womshado ngamunye ehlupheka ngendlela yakhe: othile nakanjani akudingekile, futhi abanye bamane nje abafuni ukuvuma lokudlela ezungeze amaphepha imibhalo. Naphezu imizwa imibhangqwana, isehlukaniso nomthelela namandla ezinganeni ngoba bengafuni futhi ungafuni ukubona othile abazali izikhathi ezimbalwa ngesonto.

Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi lo mbhangqwana akakwazi ukwehlukana ingane phakathi kwabo, ukuze amenze ukukhetha. Ngokwezibalo, e kwesehlukaniso, izingane ukuhlala nonina, ivela kaningi ngokwanele, ngaphezu, obaba abaningi balithatha kalula futhi ungakhathazeki mayelana imfundo yengane yabo, elahla zonke izibopho ku ukunakekelwa obeshade.

Ingane ihlala kanye nopapa: Ithuba

Ngezinye izikhathi inkantolo enquma ukugcina ingane nobaba. Ezimweni ezinjalo ezingavamile,% 5-7 kuphela kwenzinye izingxabano. Abameli zanikezelwa 2 izizathu zokuthi kungani inkantolo amukela ecaleni likamama:

• Abahluleli eziningi zemibango - abesifazane, futhi ukuvala umqondo wokuba ngumama;
• Abalisa abekho zasizakala kakhulu ukuhlala ndawonye nengane, ngoba beqaphela banayo ukuthi zilawule yonke imisebenzi yokunakekelwa nemfundo.

Ngokuvamile izingane ukuhlala noyise ngemva kwesehlukaniso kuphela esimweni lapho uPapa kahle enikeziwe futhi ephikelela imfundo kuphela. Ezimweni ezinjalo, umntwana sizibandakanye ngophethe baqasha abasebenzi, futhi uyise - okwenza imali.

Ukuhlukaniswa izingane kokuba kungokuvumelana

Yiqiniso, abazali kufanele ukhohlwe zonke amagqubu, imizwa, ukwesaba, futhi uqale, izingxoxo fair ngokuhlanganyela, okuzokwenza nodaba ngekusasa ingane ngokuhlanganyela. Uma konke uya ngomoya ophansi, lo mbhangqwana ungakwenza avikela umntwana amahlazo futhi lukababa, okuyizinto yobudala encane okuhle ngeke kuholele. sivumelwano Labhalwa kuzosiza ukuxazulula icala bembuza ngesehlukaniso, okukuye ingane, futhi kunonophisa luhlelo isehlukaniso futhi ukuba bagxile izinkinga abazalwane ababehlangabezana nazo.

Ngokusho imithetho ekhona, inkontileka kumele ngokucacile:

• ukubhekana lapho ingane uyohlala ngemva kwesehlukaniso;
• yemfanelo for ukunakekelwa kanye nemfundo umzali ngamunye;
• ukusatshalaliswa imali wokugcinwa ingane;
• inani emihlanganweni nezinye womshado nengane.

Isivumelwano phakathi kwabazali akunakwenzeka - indlela ukuba

Uma lo mbhangqwana ungakwenza singavumelani okukuye ingane ngemva kwesehlukaniso, kufanele abalekele isinqumo senkantolo. Ngokusho imithetho, kumele ukufaka isimangalo kule District Court, ivela omunye wabazali. Izicelo zingahanjiswa kanyekanye ne esimweni isehlukaniso noma ukwehlukanisa kuwo.

Yini udinga ukucacisa isimangalo ngokubhala:

• Ngaphakathi the gama of inhlangano zokwahlulela;
• Igama, ikheli kokubili kummangali kanye nommangalelwa;
• Igama izingane, usuku lwabo lokuzalwa;
• futhi isisekelo okwakhelwe kuso isicelo sithunyelwa;
• uhlu kwemibhalo enamathiselwe isimangalo, isignesha nosuku.

Lokho ngemva kwesehlukaniso ingane bahlala nomama wakhe noma uyise, isitatimende kumelwe ucacise izizathu zokuthi kungani inkantolo kufanele makudle wena. Lezi zizathu ukuthatha ngongakwazi ukukhokha izikweletu wezimali ka omunye wabazali, IRREPARABLY maqondana nengane ngesikhathi kuhlalisana, kabi utshwala noma izidakamizwa.

Lapho izingane zinikelwe ilungelo lokuvota

Ngezinye izikhathi, lapho kulalelwa ingane yenza sikwazi ukukhetha eyona naye ufuna ukuhlala, kodwa kuphela uma isivele engu-10 ubudala. Umbuzo babo umntwana ubesesimweni emva kwabazali, kudinga indlela wemfanelo, ngakho kwesinye isikhathi kungasebenza inkantolo igodla izinqumo ezifanele, ngisho noma kuphambene isicelo wengane.

Izinqumo ezinjalo zithathwa emhlanganweni akulula, ngoba umntwana angakwazi ukusho into eyodwa, kodwa ukuze kuvikelwe izingane kanye nokuhlinzekwa izimo imfundo impilo enhle kudingeka ukusho enye into ngokuphelele.

Yini okumelwe siyibheke njani ngifake isahlukaniso? Ubani lo mntwana kuxhomeke endleleni ngayinye abazali bazimisele ukudela konke futhi kancane more ingane yakhe wahlala naye. Uma bobabili abazimisele abe izimo kahle kwezemfundo, uthande ingane yakho futhi ufuna ukuba naye, isinqumo lizaphiwa akulula.

Phakathi nomhlangano, inkantolo okokuqala evikelwe amalungelo izingane izakhamuzi, izingane isb. Ngamanye amazwi, ijaji kufanele ukuthi ubani lo mntwana ngemva kwesehlukaniso, nalapho ingane kakhulu kuyoba kangcono: umama noma ubaba.

Ubudala wengane

Lokhu isici sokuqala isehlukaniso. Ubani lo mntwana omncane incike lokufuna inqubo yesehlukaniso. Uma kuqedwa umshado livela owesifazane osuke ingane kokuba ibele yini noma cha eneminyaka engu 5 ubudala, kuyacaca ukuthi inkantolo izohamba ingane nonina. Uma ingane endala futhi isimangalo ukuqhutshwa yena evela kuBaba, isinqumo tingentiwa esivuna amadoda. Uma umntwana ngokulambisa 10 ubudala futhi ufuna ukuhlala nonina, ubani akusebenzi kuphi, basebenzisa kabi utshwala, inkantolo ngeke ukulalela umbono onjalo futhi uthathe kolunye uhlangothi. Uma leyo ngane izokwazi omdala - iminyaka 15-17 ubudala, inkantolo uzathatha-akhawunti egcwele imibono yayo, njengoba intsha ngalesi yobudala kungaba ngokwanele ukuhlola isimo bese anqume indawo ababeya kuwo ngempela kube lula ukuphila.

uthando izingane

Kaningi kungenzeka ukuze kubhekwane nesimo lapho ingane kakhulu linamathele omunye wabazali kungakhathaliseki nobuhlobo babo, indlela yokuphila, izimiso zokuziphatha futhi izisekelo. Lesi simo kungaba ngenxa yokuthi isikhathi eside ingane wahlala nomama noma ubaba, ngakho udinga indoda le umlandu. Ngezinye izikhathi, endaweni ezimweni ezinjalo esizwa ochwepheshe nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ukusiza izingane ziqonde ukuthi ilungu elithile lomkhaya kungaba ngcono kakhulu.

zokuziphatha

Isici esibalulekile isehlukaniso. Nobani iyona ingane kuxhomeke endleleni umuntu ofake bafaka icala ethi imfundo oluhambisana izimiso zomphakathi futhi izisekelo. Izingane zifunda isibonelo abazali babo, ngakho inkantolo kufanele ikhumbule ukuthi zinganikeza kummangali futhi ummangalelwa, njengoba indlela efanele yokuphila uqhutshwa, ukuze ingane ifunda kusuka umama noma ubaba ngeke babe uma nomthelela ongemuhle. Ngokwesibonelo, uma omunye wenza bona kube nerekhodi lobugebengu, ukusebenzisa kabi utshwala noma izidakamizwa esikhathini esidlule noma ine imikhuba enjalo manje kuholela noma ngiziphatha kabi nge obuningi njalo futhi emaphathini, akalona ilungu emsebenzini - ingane ukuba umuntu onjalo ngokucacile awubalulekile akunika, ngoba akukho lutho Nokho akazange afunde khona.

induduzo

Bobani izingane lapho abazali nesehlukaniso, futhi kuncike induduzo ahlinzekwa izindlu, ukudala izimo zokuphila evumayo, iholo womshado ngamunye. Izinto lapho isinqumo osebenza kuzo ukusekelwa ngezinto ezibonakalayo, khona efulethini lakhe, isimo somshado kanye nezempilo. Uma omunye wabazali has ngihola kahle, kodwa akudingeki isikhathi esanele ukuzijayeza nengane yakho kwezemidlalo, iqhaza ngendlela akhuliswa ngayo, ngisho umusa wakhe ngeke amukelwe. Futhi ebukhoneni omunye abashadayo ungumyeni entsha noma isinqumo umka zingenziwa umusa, kusukela kuzo ukusekelwa ngezinto ezibonakalayo ezanele, plus yonke indlu kukhona njalo umuntu kuzothatha izifundo kanye nengane, amyise esikoleni.

Uthe lesi sinqumo senziwa

Ngemva isinqumo kubaluleke kakhulu ungalahlekelwa ithuba lakhe, ukuthi ukuqoka osemthethweni udinga ukuba anake ingane, kanye nemihlangano omunye umzali. Iphuzu lokugcina kudinga ukubulawa ayimpoqo, noma umlingani uya kwenye icala ngenxa yokuthi unalo ilungelo lokuhlangana, futhi isinqumo sangaphambilini ngeke kusaba khona.