Kuyini nesondlo futhi ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso uma wavula icala ngemuva kweminyaka engu-18

Falling in love nokudala umndeni, abantu ungacabangi mayelana ezimbi, ezinethemba lokuphila ndawonye iminyaka esele yokuphila kwakhe. Kodwa izibalo nokhahlo kuwo wonke imishado eziyisishiyagalombili kudlalwa kukhona abahlukanisayo ezinhlanu. Futhi minyaka yonke inani lukhula.

Emishadweni eminingi zikhona izingane cishe njalo ngihlala nomama wami, ngoba umama, noma yini kungase kube, is ibhekwa njengomlando wesonto obaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwengane, kunokuba upapa. Ubani ukunikeza uthando ingane nokufudumala? Yiqiniso, umama! Uhlale ukondla, kuzosithinta, ngawakhamela wena pat ekhanda. Bonke ubunzima bokukhulisa ingane, walala emahlombe ethambile umzali.

Ngokomthetho, abazali bebophekile ukuba beseke izingane zabo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi aqukethe isimo nokuthi ingabe uyafisa yini siphile ndawonye.

Hhayi abaphila ne nomzali wengane liyadingeka ukukhokha imali yesondlo yengane - lena ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso. Ngemva kwesehlukaniso, 2/3 abesifazane, ngeshwa, kodwa nokho anamukeli, ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso. Futhi abayitholayo ikakhulukazi akajabuli - amadoda amaningi ngokukhethekile wahlela ukuba umsebenzi esemthethweni, ukuze ngingasebenzisi ukunikeza lemali avelele izimali zabo ukuze ingane. Kunalabo "nabantu" abafihla futhi bayenqaba ukukhokha imali yesondlo.

Vzyskivanie ngesondlo akuphazamisi ubuhlobo abazali bengane - sebeshadile, abahlukanisile noma musa ukubhalisa nobuhlobo babo. Ingane ezincane kumele sikhokhwe esivuna omunye wabazali, lowo ingane ophilayo, ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso zomthetho. Ngemva 18 aliment ngokuvamile zingaphumi. Le mali kufanele usetshenziselwe inhloso yazo - okungukuthi, ingane kuphela. Ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso ingenye ngezindlela eziningi ukwenza abazali izibopho ukuqinisekisa kanye nokugcina izingane zabo.

Ngiyithola kanjani nesondlo? Kunezindlela eziningana. Uma abangane bomshado kwamasiko Babelana ngaphandle amahlazo, okungenzeka kakhulu bazokwazi ukuba uvumelane kulokho usizo lwezimali kuyodingeka omunye wabo. Ungaya ummeli olungisa izivumelwano ukusayinda isivumelwano ngesivumelwano bobabili. Inani abashadayo ichaze, nxa bezilinganisa ngezingqobo sivumelwano. Uma abazali bengakwazi bavumelane indlela yokuphila ngokuthula, khona-ke udinga ukuya enkantolo. Kasibili ngeke kunendaba remoteness yesehlukaniso kanye nosuku yokuthola ilungelo ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso. Ngaphansi Ikhodi Family, umzali ongafuni ukukhokhela imali ngendlela enokuthula, ngo isinqumo senkantolo labetibambile ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso. Ngemva kweminyaka engu-18, njengoba umthetho, nesondlo ingakhokhwa, ngaphandle ukulesi simo esilandelayo.

Ngemva kweminyaka engu-18 nesondlo liyakushunyayelwa kuqoqwa abazali futhi abakhokhelwa kuphela uma kwenzeka ukukhubazeka kwengane kanye kokuba abadinga usizo lwezimali. Ngokwesibonelo, ingane ekhubazekile iqembu 1-non-ukusebenza, futhi imali yayo sincane kakhulu, ngezansi ubuncane owasungulwa ngumthetho. Kuzo zonke ezinye izimo, ukusimama kanye nokukhokhwa nesondlo iphela ngesikhathi ingane ifinyelela umuntu omdala. Futhi ngisho noma ingane edinga imali ukungena emanyuvesi, ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso emva kweminyaka engu-18, ukuthi ayisekho unelungelo.

Ngemva kweminyaka engu-18 nesondlo ingalandwa futhi igcine umzali uma kwenzeka isikweletu yakhe yokweseka ingane kwemibandela yomthetho yobudala kwengane. Nezikweletu liyakushunyayelwa zibuyiswe bailiffs phezu umyalelo wenkantolo.

Ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso ngokuvamile emalini nyangazonke imali umzali, lapho inkantolo iyalelwe ukuba ikhokhe kubo. Ukubalwa nokudluliselwa amadili nge ezimali inhlangano lapho abazali besebenza. Umamukeli Ungakhetha noma yiliphi yezindlela ezilandelayo ukuze uthole ukwesekwa ingane - kusengozini ebhange, ngokheshi noma yeposi imali oda. I lokukhokha komunye oyedwa kufanele ngokuzimela ukuqapha ukudluliselwa wonke isamba baba.

Ngakho wazi konke kuza ukondla obushade naye emuva kwesehlukaniso. Sifisela wena ungayeki hhayi ukuba bazibandakanye nge inqubo akumnandi kakhulu kangaka, futhi ukuphila nomndeni walo egcwele!