Kufanele kube yindoda yangempela

- Ngubani umuntu ofanelekayo?

"Okholwa ukuthi umkakhe uyindoda enhle."

(I-anecdote ye-bearded)

Umbuzo okhathazayo abesifazane ngaso sonke isikhathi: yini okufanele indoda yangempela ifane? Okokuqala, bonke abesifazane basabela ngaphandle kokungabaza: abahlakaniphile, abade, abahle, abacebile. Khona-ke, ngemva kokuma isikhashana futhi ukuqonda lo mbuzo, ngokungazelelwe wanezela: unomusa ... ngokomoya oqinile ... ukwazi ukuqonda, ukuvikela ...

Ngangiqiniseka ukuthi wonke owesifazane ngendlela yakhe emele umuntu oyedwa, oyingqayizivele, oyindoda enhle ngempela. Futhi isithombe sakhe ngokuvamile asihambisani nemodeli eyafika kithi evela kumafilimu e-Hollywood.

Isithombe somnumzane ophuziwe esikhwameni se- cowboy senza amantombazane aneminyaka engaba ngu-16 ubudala. Khona-ke baqala ukuqonda ukuthi i-hat ne-muscle akuyona into esemqoka. Futhi umbuzo wokuthi indoda yangempela kufanele ibe yiphi, phendula (hhayi njalo ngokuzwakalayo): - Ucebile.

Amantombazane akhula, ashade, izinguquko zawo zomhlaba wonke.

Lapho esekhulile, umbuzo ofanayo nalokho umuntu wangempela okufanele abe khona, unikeza impendulo ehluke ngokuphelele. Ngokungangabazeki, ukuchuma kwezinto ezibonakalayo kubalulekile, futhi indoda kumele ihlale iwumthengi. Kodwa-ke, izibalo ziyazi izibonelo eziningi, lapho indoda ihamba kahle futhi icebile, futhi embhedeni inhle, futhi abesifazane bamshiyela abampofu nababi. Kungani?

Mhlawumbe, ngezinga elithile uphendula umbuzo wesifundo esisodwa somhlaba wonke lapho abesifazane abangaphezu kuka-1000 besolwa khona. Babuzwa ukuba babonise izimfanelo zanamuhla, kusukela ekuboneni kwabo, amadoda. Umphumela wawungalindelekile. Izimfanelo zahanjiswa kule oda (ngokuhlehlisa):

• Umusa, onakekelayo, othandekayo;
• Ehlakaniphile, efundisiwe;
• Okumnandi, okukhangayo;
• Uthembekile, uqinisile;
• Unamandla - othanda, oqinile emoyeni;
• Ibhizinisi, elinomthwalo wemfanelo;
• Ukusebenza kanzima;
• Kuhle.

Kubonakala kimi ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukunikeza impendulo ephelele embuzweni wokuthi umuntu omuhle kufanele abe njani. Ummeleli ngamunye wesigamu sowesifazane wesintu unesithombe sakhe somuntu siqu. Ngiyakwazi ukucabangela ukuthi ubani engimmele njengelungile kimi.

Ngakho, ngombono wami, indoda yangempela kufanele ibe:

• Kubheka njengomuntu. Ngiyakwazi ukuma ngombono we "unisex" nethi "umuntu". Indoda yangempela kufanele yenze umqondo ekubonweni kokuqala: ukuba ulungele (hhayi omncane, okungukuthi uqiniswe), eqoqwe, ehlanzekile, ehlanzekile, ephunga elimnandi elimnandi futhi elisha. Kuphela ngaphansi kwalezi zimiso ngingakwazi ukuhlukanisa nesixuku;
• Kumele afunde kahle futhi afundiswe. Kufanele angithande. Ukuze ube njalo omusha, okuthakazelisayo, mhlawumbe okungaqondakali;
• Imfono engqondweni nasemzimbeni. Ngingowesifazane, ngicabanga ngokubanzi, ngokomfanekiso, kodwa kancane kancane. Umqondo wami kufanele ucabange ngokushesha futhi wazi okwengeziwe;
• Unomthwalo wemfanelo futhi ozimele. Angikukhathazeki neze ngemisebenzi yesibili emndenini, uma umuntu wami ekwazi ukunikeza induduzo yami (ngokomoya nangokwenyama) ngaphandle kokungibuza njalo ngomzuzu ukuthi ngenzeni;
• Uthando, ukuqonda, ubumnene, uthando. Kumelwe angithande, izingane, abazali. Ukwazi ukuzisola, ukucindezela, ngesikhathi sokusekela. Indoda iyidwala, ikwazi ukufihla emoyeni, ukushisa, isimo sezulu. Ngiyayithanda ngempela amazwi abe yisaga: "Indoda yangempela izohlala iphumelela lokho owesifazane efuna";
• Ungaphuzi. Kuyinto iphunga utshwala obunzima ukuthi ngizibandakanya negama elithi "umuntu", futhi mina, njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, ungabheki njengamadoda wangempela;
• Ithembekile. Lokhu cishe kubaluleke kakhulu kimi. Kumelwe ngikholelwe indoda yami. Futhi uthembele;
• Okungafani. Kumele akwazi ukuguqula ikhanda lami, angiqhube ngicindezelekile futhi ngisabeke, ngifake ngesikhathi esifanele. Nginike intando, kodwa yenza ukuze ngingayidingi.

Mhlawumbe abaningi abavumelani nami. Futhi kuhle. Ngoba indoda yangempela - ihlukile: ide neyincane, incane futhi isisu esikhulu, i-bald futhi ingenasifo. Bangaki abesifazane - imibono eminingi mayelana nendoda yangempela. Kodwa, kubonakala kimi ukuthi ngamunye wethu uzovumelana nemigqa evela enkondlweni yombongi waseSoviet u- Eduard Asadov. Uphendula umbuzo mayelana nokuthi indoda yangempela kufanele ibe njani: "... Ulungele ukuza, uma kukubi kuwe."