Kanjani ukufunda ukuxhumana

Sonke ekuphileni kwakhe evamile sixhumana, kodwa kukhona umuntu embuthanweni omkhulu nabangane nabantu obajwayele, futhi umuntu echitha wedwa ekhaya zonke amaholide. Into wukuthi abanye abantu bayakwazi ukukhulumisana futhi kube mnandi, kanti ezinye nje angazi kanjani bengasheshi ukuveza imibono yabo, futhi ngokuvamile ukubeka amagama amabili ndawonye.

Kulokhu, kukhona umbuzo esizwakalako: "? Kanjani I ufunde ukuxhumana".

Okokuqala, sinake jikelele ezingeni kwezamasiko kanye nezemfundo lomuntu, njengoba uma enolwazi oluncane futhi cishe lutho akanandaba, akunakwenzeka kube mnandi ukukhuluma futhi bakwazi ukugcina ingxoxo iqhubeka. Ukuze labo abanquma ukuthola impendulo yombuzo othi kanjani ukufunda ukuxhumana, kubalulekile kuqala kuzo zonke ukuze ufunde kabanzi, nesithakazelo ezindabeni futhi konke jikelele ukuthi kwenzekani emhlabeni. Akekho uthi kumelwe wazi ngokuningiliziwe mayelana konke okwenzekayo kwezombangazwe lamazwe yezwe yesithathu, kodwa esiyinhloko namuhla izindaba ukuthi uPapa kwase asiyeke, kufanele usazokwazi ukwethula noma ukunakekela ingxoxo, uma inkampani umuntu uthintekile efanayo indaba ephathwayo.

Kufanele ube nesithakazelo esiqotho kwabanye abantu. Ngiyavuma, uma uhlala qakala iningi obekushiwo futhi akhange ayelele abakutjhoko interlocutor wagula kakhulu isilwane inja, kuba fast kakhulu futhi uzoba qakala umngane wakho, futhi ngeke ngisho ukukhumbula ukuthi akukhona ngokuthi wena noma ayizange ngokuthi endaweni cafe nge abangane.

Ukuze ufunde indlela ukuxhumana, udinga ukwazi ukuqaphela isithunzi lomunye umuntu, ukuze bakwazi ukuba simdumise futhi unike abantu bazizwe ulimi lwawo luhluke nokuthi ibaluleke ngani.

Esingakwenza, kodwa kumele sivume ukuthi, bathande ukugxeka abanye, kodwa ukuqonda ngempela futhi alikulahli abantu esisazokufunda, kodwa lokhu iyokuholela umgomo ezithandwayo zezingoma - ukuba baqonde indlela ukufunda ukuxhumana.

Khumbula ikhathuni mayelana cub ihlosi, ngubani lihlabelela ingoma "I smile ngeke kukhanye wezwe"? Ngakho lokhu ikhathuni Critter kwesokudla, ngokwanele sokuba nobungane futhi ube smile, futhi, njengoba besho, abantu ukufinyelela ngawe.

Funda ukulalela interlocutor yakho, likhuthaza abantu ukuba bakhulume kabanzi ngawe. Ukuze uziqeqeshe ukubekezelelana nokuhlonipha umbono isitha sakho. Izinkulumo ezinjengokuthi "lokhu akulungile", "Yini ingabe uqonde", "ukhuluma umbhedo," nje ibenze kude nani, futhi ubuhlungu interlocutor yakhe.

Isikhathi esining impela, silinganisela obuntu, ukulinganisa nge okwakhe, kodwa owathi ukuthi singamakhosi lokuma futhi kulungile? Kodwa ukwahlulela abanye ngomhla kuphila kuphela, singabokudatshukelwa ahlazise indoda, yena Imane nje ihlukile, singafani us.

Zama ukuma omunye umuntu. Uma uzama ngobuqotho ukubheka izinto omunye ukubukeka, ngisho noma ungenawo ukushintsha umbono, imizamo yakho nanela.

Musa skimp on udumo. Khumbula, ukuba beyofuna Impendulo yombuzo kanjani ukufunda ukuxhumana, kufanele uqale bakwazi ukuqaphela isithunzi lomunye umuntu, ukuze bakwazi nje ukuzwa, kodwa ukulalela umbono yomunye.

Ukuxhumana ku-intanethi, lapho umthombo ngakolunye uhlangothi kwesikrini kuhlukile kancane, ngenxa yokuthi akaqondi ukuthi ukukubona, awukwazi ukuzwa nelizwi lakho, akazange ukubona isibonakaliso sakho. Nokho, kungcono indlela enhle kakhulu ukufunda ukuthi uphatha imizwelo yabo ungaphenduli ngesivinini sombani, bese benikezwa bakale "kochwepheshe" futhi "nebubi" kwanoma iyiphi impendulo. Ukuze guys, kungcono indlela enhle kakhulu ukufunda indlela yokuxoxa amantombazane akuyona izincomo banal, futhi uphendule ngokukhalipha ngobuqili, ngoba abesifazane kuba ithuba ngothando nokuheha wobulili obuhlukile.

Kulabo ngifuna indlela ukuxhumana ku-intanethi, kukhona lenqwaba amakamelo ezihlukahlukene wengxoxo futhi ukuphola sites lapho ungakwazi ukuthola kalula interlocutor abantu abaningi ababebonisa isithakazelo ezivamile. Eyokuqala ukuthola wokuzilibazisa entsha, wokuzilibazisa noma ukuba bahlanganyele kunoma yiluphi uhlobo sport, kuyasiza empilweni, futhi kuyoba nesihloko yengxoxo.

Khuluma nomunye, futhi khumbula ukuthi kubalulekile ukugcina isimo esihle ngigeza futhi indoda emnene.