Unowesifazane Ukudoba

"Lo wesifazane ephaphama lapho kugamanxa ihora lesithathu ekuseni futhi buthule ,, ukuvuka embhedeni ukuze ukungabaphazamisi umyeni wakhe ingalali. Made ngokufuzula ehholo waya ukuma ngesikhathi igiya umnyango. Nge injabulo Amazing kwathiwa ukusika umugqa, beqeda i yamabhola antantayo bese ephula izinduku! Khona-ke, njengoba buthule labuyela embhedeni futhi nge nginabantu phezu izindebe ngobumnandi elele ... siphile kwaba ncamashi isigamu sehora. "
Wenzenjani ukuthuthukisa icebo enjalo? Ngacabanga ngale ndaba futhi wafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi ngempela omkethu zonda inkanuko yethu, futhi, ngombono wami, lokhu kuyaqondakala. Ukudoba ambheke njengembangi, kuthatha kude abesifazane bethu amadoda abo, ababechitha ngempelasonto ezingavamile yabo umdlalo, angayinaki le umndeni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile esisuke fisherwomen yethu ebuya ukudoba ngaphandle nibambe, kodwa namanje "izimpondo", uma hhayi ezandleni nabangane. Yiqiniso, lokhu neze kugxilisa uthando passion yethu nawe. Kodwa share sengonyama salaba badobi kwakungafanele athole imizwa enjalo emkhayeni, eyayizama kanzima yokudoba ukuze uphumule kusukela idolobha enothuli, ukubuyisela izinzwa ubizwa ngokuthi "isigodi nemvelo." Futhi ubukhulu catch kulesi sikhundla kungathatha indawo yesibili, njengoba kufanele kube, kodwa abesifazane agumenti enjalo anikwamukelanga, ngoba yinto engenakwenzeka ukuchaza kumuntu ukuthi wena nje kudingeka ukuze uzizwele indlela eqonda futhi amukela. Njengoba usuvele waqonda, ukumisa intukuthelo abesifazane bethu ukuba eduze kwabo kaningi, mina phakamisa ukuze ubameme ukuze nifuna ukuyodoba, uhambe ukudoba nabo, ukuvula futhi enjalo ezingavamile ngempelasonto ngamaholide ngoba umphefumulo, abenze bajabule kakhudlwana.
Qala nge neqiniso lokuthi wayeseholela wamnika "igama," lolo, kuqala izifundo zeminyaka, akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi kunalokho esifushane, ukuhlomisa kuvele ukuthi kwakungekho snap-e izakhi ezidinga ezinye izinyathelo futhi amakhono. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ozoba ukudoba lokuqala ngokuhlanganyela, lapho wena uyobe cishe ngeke bakwazi ukubamba izinhlanzi eziningi, njengoba uzobe njalo athikanyezwe ukufunda namaqhinga ngokudoba neengcezu yakho futhi-ke, ngosizo ngokomzimba. Kuyodingeka uthathele ezinye izinto ukuba owesifazane okokuqala ngeke ngaphansi amandla noma umane ezingemnandi (kahle ube nomqondo). Nakho-ke wena, kanye nonkosikazi wakhe bazizwa injabulo ukubanjwa izinhlanzi yakhe yokuqala, Yebo elikhulu okuyinto yena-ke, yonke le mithetho ukudoba, tshela abangane bakho. Futhi uma uzothola enye ingxenye yakho ukuze isimo, kholwa yimi, isikhathi ukudoba olwandle kuqala noma kunjalo ngeke ibe owokugcina, njalo kuyoba yesibili, futhi yibo wesithathu futhi okwalandela.
Futhi ngaleso sikhathi, ngicabanga owesifazane yakho isifuna sithiye ebusika, futhi okwamanje kuzakufika izinsuku, lapho ngeke nje angeke kumphathe kahle nifuna ukuyodoba ngaphandle kwalo. Kungadingeka ngihlale izibonelo ngakhoke ngicabanga.
Yiqiniso, kunezinto eziningi ubandlululo, "owesifazane emkhunjini", kukhona omunye kusimo ukuze lonke rybolovov- omakhelwane Echibini uhlamvu obuseduze (lapha, futhi, ecacile-ukuthi ngiqonde ukuthini), kodwa zonke izinto kancane futhi unake kubo ngeke. Vele alungele yokuthi ezinye izinto kwi uhambo yokudoba uzoba ukwenza abantu ababili ukuphila, kodwa lokho kumane nje kumnandi ukuba iyiphi indoda enothando ayeyokwenza umkayo zonke izinto zibe lula yayo fun.
Ngokusho oyiphawulile zami, isibalo sabesifazane nenduku yokudoba ezindikimbeni amanzi sikhulela njalo, futhi ngokuvamile ephelezelwa amadoda. Leli qiniso ejabulisa, nice ukubukela le mibhangqwana, futhi uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, kukhona umona. Kaningi kuyenzeka ukuthi abafazi abadobi sika outgrow abayeni babo catch futhi kulesi sici ngendlela engenathemba lungafinyeleleki. I ukuchaza leli qiniso umehluko engokwemvelo abesifazane uvela kubantu, ungaphakathi zinembile ukuphikelela nokuthembela imicikilisho yalelo. Lokhu akuthathi kude abesifazane futhi amadoda kungukuthi zigonywe, ngakho anginandaba nayo njengendaba eyiqiniso, kodwa mina nje njengabanye, njalo sikhuthazeke kukubuka entsha, futhi, njengoba nakuba kungase kuzwakale, ukuqeqesha abesifazane. Mina Somewhere isizwile umbono ukuthi inhlanzi "khona, kwelinye ekupheleni, 'uyakwazi ukuhlukanisa amadoda esuka abesifazane, futhi ngokuvumelana nesimiso of bite bahlukene. Angiyena oyikholelwayo kuwo, uma kuphela ngoba, zibeke yami ngokulinganayo kukhona owesilisa nowesifazane. Kafushane, ngangifuna ukusho nje ukuthi ubeka "umndeni" indoda ukudoba kufanele bakulungele lokuthi esikhathini esithile umkakhe eqala ukuba izinhlanzi, nilwele ubuqhawe kuyoba nje engenamsebenzi. Kuyadingeka ukuba bakwazi ukuletha ngokwami ukuba sijabule kanye nomngane wakhe, aphathe ke ngenxa impumelelo ukuqeqeshwa kwenu, kahle, ukuthula kwakho kwengqondo hhayi ukwabelana catch "lakhe 'futhi' yakhe".
Efingqa, ngifuna ukusho ukuthi sibonga ukudoba ngokuhlanganyela Ngeke sithole umoya lezihlotsheni lapho sibhekene nomkakhe, uyogwema enjalo izizathu iwubuphukuphuku ukudoba emsebenzini ngokuthi "Umfazi akalisebenzisi uyayekela", ukuqinisa ubudlelwano emndenini , futhi uzothola ubumnandi kabili ebusweni eziningi kothandekayo.