Ukujwayeleka - a Swagger futhi ukuthanda noma kalula ukuxhumana nokukhathalela abanye?

Latin "familiaris" lisho ukuthi "umndeni", "ikhaya." Ngakho, "Ukujwayelana". Lisho ukuthini igama elithi ziye zashintsha njengoba isikhathi. Ngu ekuqaleni XVIII leminyaka in isiRashiya, izwi livele libe isetshenziswe ngomqondo ongathandeki. Impande Latin ulahlekelwa ukubaluleka yayo yangaphambili. Ukujwayeleka izindlela manje okungalungile, ebandakanya kalula Swagger.

Impilo ka ngalinye ihlukaniswe ngezigodi lowo livulekele bonke, futhi lowo uhlala ekusithekeni, nomndeni noma abakhulu. Umuntu ngokufaka kwangaphakathi, umbuthano kwangaphakathi, unelungelo lokuthathwa njengomsulwa amalungelo athile e inkhulumomphendvulwano. Othandekayo unelungelo ukukunika iseluleko engacelwanga, aveze ezithile, njengezingubo zokugqoka noma ukubukeka. Ake sithi umama unika indodakazi yakhe esakhula izeluleko onjani izingubo kungcono esimweni esithile. Ukujwayeleka kuyinto? Ezimweni eziningi, akukho. Phela, indodakazi, futhi, kungasiza umama kukhethwa izingubo, eqondiswa ukunambitheka kwako.

Kungenye into lapho kumngane noma ilunga lomndeni uzokweluleka okuthile ukuzivumelanisa isitayela ingubo, kuhlukile - lapho abantu ezingajwayelekile zishaya ehlombe futhi ukusho amazwi anjengokuthi, "Dude, bengakwamukeli lokhu uthayi / jacket / ijezi ". Ukujwayeleka kuyinto? Akungabazeki.

Lo mbono wokuthi ukwazana ikuphi cha, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, yebo, ushintsho njengoba imithetho ukuhlonipha, ukuphila komkhaya. Ngokwesibonelo, manje emikhayeni eminingi izingane ningabizi abazali ukuba "wena", kwaba kungokwemvelo enye eminyakeni eyikhulu edlule. Uma aqhele nakakhulu, uzothola funny ukucacisa ukuthi kukhona ukwazana. Lokhu, isibonelo, uchaza Saltykov -Schedrin e "endulo Poshehonsky." Le nsizwa wabingelela, yabuyisela ntokazi futhi wabheka emva, isandla - ke kwachazwa ngokuthi "Ukujwayelana kungamukeleki."

Kodwa emuva namuhla. Kukhona izinto zibe khona kungaxoxwa ngazo abantu angajwayelekile noma osebenza nabo - sezulu, ezombusazwe kanye nokunye. Futhi kusobala ukuthi kukhona izinkinga umuntu evamile akunakwenzeka ukuba uthande ukuxoxa obala akunakwenzeka ukuba ahlupheke ukuphazamiseka emkhakheni we ubani party. Futhi eRussia ke samukelwa ku abangabazi nabantu ezingajwayelekile waphendukela nomunye "wena", kwenzekani a kancane esisemthethweni "wena" ukumazi kangcono kanye ukuthola isixazululo kumngane.

umuntu ajwayelekile akafuni ukuphika ukuthi iziphi kulezi zimiso. Yena decouples futhi kakhulu wabeka-back ukukhuluma. Kulokhu, ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi kuye ukuthi wayezijwayele - yilokhu nje isuke ibangelwa uthando nokunakekela. Akusilona iqiniso. Yena ngokuvamile nandaba yena interlocutor, futhi indlela asabela ngayo lapho. Ufuna ngempela ngezwi lakhe, kuphela lesifanele, imibono yakhe, ukuphoqelela yonke imithetho yayo kuphela esamukelekayo. Akazange angabaze ukuthi ubeka interlocutor bakhe esimweni esiyinkinga ngokubuza imibuzo siqu kakhulu, seluleka engacelwanga. An lula kwathatha "wena" ngisho nalapho beyala nendoda endala kunaye, ingasaphathwa mayelana yobudala efanayo, awusebenzi ukusula imingcele futhi kudala izinkinga ezintsha zokuxhumana. Phela, kubalulekile ukuphendula, futhi sekulula nokuya kwamanye "-pointing" akuvumelekile kuwo wonke umuntu.

abantu ajwayelekile nje kabi wenyusa. Ngezinye izikhathi akukhona ongenafu, futhi ngempela amenable lemfundo. Uma yahlupheka imingcele eyamukelekayo nengamukeleki kuvunyelwe, khona-ke ungathola ngempela umngane omuhle.