Le ntombazane ekhulelwe - isipho noma isijeziso?

Ukukhulelwa. Abaningi abasha abashadikazi uthando kakhulu wethukile kakhulu lapho befunda ivela khona, futhi abanye bakholelwa Kunalokho, lesi sipho isimo kusuka ezulwini, uNkulunkulu. Ukwesaba ekhulelwe zemvelo, ikakhulukazi uma abalingani azifinyelelanga yobudala. Ngiyavuma, uma intombazane okhulelwe eneminyaka engu-13-15 iminyaka - kuphambene kokubili izindinganiso zokuziphatha ngawo emphakathini wanamuhla izimpilo kanye yemvelo nokuvuthwa bokuphila umzimba. Kodwa uma owesifazane ekhulelwe njengoba ezincane - zikhona izindawo zokuphuma ezimbili. Noma isisu, emva okungaholela umthwalo lobugebengu nenkohlakalo kwabancane, noma ukuphila komkhaya kanye nokuzalwa kwengane.

Isikhathi esining impela, olwandle olungenamkhawulo zamakhasi ewebhu ungakwazi bazithole lo mbuzo: "intombi yami ukhulelwe, yini okufanele uyenze, indlela yokwenza into elungile." Impendulo isobala kule mibuzo ingucha, ngoba konke kuncike izimo, ukuchuma ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo okwakukhona umndeni, impilo omama abasha nabanye. Okokuqala sidinga ukuba uzazi kahle wena futhi ukuthi usukulungele ukuba babe abazali? Ingabe sikulungele ukubhekana wonke umthwalo wokuba nomthwalo wemfanelo elizowela emahlombe akho namanje ngempela beya ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane? Kunoma ikuphi, wena intombi yakho ukhulelwe, yini okufanele uyenze, kufanele ukunquma ndawonye.

Uma uzokwazi ukuza umbono ovamile (noma lokuzalwa nomshado noma isisu), udinga bakhuluma kakhulu nabazali bakho ukuthi intombi yakho ukhulelwe, ziphazima ngesikhathi esifanayo mayelana izinhlelo zayo lekusasa. Yiqiniso, iningi abazali ukusekela amadodana abo lokhu, njengoba izingane, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi babengatshelwanga kuhlelwe, - izimbali zokuphila. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isibindi ngathenga yophawu, bamphathele nezimbali ezinhle, hamba nabazali (ubaba kumelwe abe khona) kuya kumkakhe esizayo. Chazela umndeni wonke Isimo intombazane futhi ucele isandla yakhe ayithandayo futhi inhliziyo, esimweni asabele kahle ukumshumayeza, futhi ukwamukelwa abazali - ukusebenzisa ukulungiselela for the wedding, kanye uthintane udokotela wezifo zabesifazane, ngubani lizobamba ultrasound kuqala.

Ngeshwa, izibalo zibonisa ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi abasha, engesabi ulaka nentukuthelo abazali iphendukele isisu, zingazi ukuthi imiphumela isiphazamiso nendikimba owesifazane osemusha. Ngemva uthola ukuthi ukhulelwe, bafuna izindlela ukuqeda nje izithelo eqale.

Kuyiqiniso elaziwa kabanzi ukuthi ingane kufanele asikhiphe isisu ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali bazo akuvunyelwe nakancane. Ngakho-ke, imibhangqwana ongenalwazi futhi bethukile ukusheshe Amakhasi wewebhu beyofuna "emthethweni" isisu kanye, ngeshwa, kukhona. Bakhohlisi ukuzenza odokotela okwehlela abafanelekayo, kunalokho abaphansi. imali eningi e intsha esikhulakhulile ngamasevisi zabo. Ukuze isisu njengoba izimo ezidingekayo enelanga, namakhono athile, ngenxa yokuba khona kwalezi izimo kunomthelela ekusaseni okhulelweyo, impilo yakhe ngisho nokuphila.

Sincoma kakhulu uma intombi yakho "ezithakazelisayo" isikhundla - ucabange futhi sihlaziye lokho kungaba nemiphumela isisu e indawo engahlanzekile, umuntu akusho ifa ngisho ulwazi lwezokwelapha eziyisisekelo ezokwenza zingayilimaza impilo lowo omthandayo. Zama ukukhuluma nabazali bakho, ngoba "uDeveli akayena umbono wesabeka kangaka njengoba ngaso." Kakhulu ukuthi bangakwazi ukwenza - ukumthethisa wena, ukuthethisa, nokusongela kokuhlukana le ntombazanyana, kodwa ekugcineni, lapho kuphole futhi baqala ukuhlola lesi sigameko elibanzi, umbono wabo zingase zishintshe kakhulu futhi bayoba esijabulisa kunazo nogogo nomkhulu wakhe emhlabeni.