Izinzuzo nokuziqhenya kwezingxabano. Izinhlobo zezingxabano nezindlela zokuzixazulula

Phakathi kwabantu abanesithakazelo esibucayi kanye nemibono ehlukahlukene, izingxabano zivame ukuphakama. Isisekelo sabo sihlukile. Kodwa njalo, kungakhathaliseki isimo phakathi kwabahlanganyeli kukhona ukungezwani kanye nenkinga ebonakalayo ebonakalayo, ehlangene nabo ngokuphathelene nomunye nomunye. Kodwa sonke sihlala futhi sisebenzisana emphakathini. Abantu abangamalungu awo bahlukile. Futhi akekho umuntu ongagwema "ukushayisana" okunjalo. Kodwa-ke, kusukela ekuboneni kwengqondo, izimo ezinjalo ngezinye izikhathi ziyasiza. Ngakho-ke manje kufanelekile ukukhuluma mayelana nocansi kanye nama-pluses wezingxabano.

Isici somzwelo

Mayelana naye kufanele kuthiwe kuqala. Ezingxabano, akukho lutho olumnandi, njengoba luhambisana nemizwelo emibi, lithinta abahlanganyeli ngokulimaza. Abantu abathintekayo kakhulu, ukuqhuma kwabo njalo kungaholela ekuthuthukiseni nasekuthuthukiseni izifo ezehlukene ezivame ukuphazamisa isimiso sezinzwa eziphakathi, izinhlelo zenhliziyo nezomzimba, isibindi, amalunga, njll. Akunjalo, ngoba emzimbeni wethu yonke into ixhunyiwe.

Lokhu kuyisici. Kodwa kukhona okunye! Ezimweni ezinjalo, ungafunda ukunqoba imizwelo - ukuyilawula, ukuzihlukanisa ne-epicenter of the conflict. Akuwona wonke umuntu owazi ukuthi angasuka kanjani "endaweni yokubilisa". Kodwa ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo, ungazama ukuthuthukisa leli khono. Indlela ethandwayo ukugxila kokunye, hhayi emizweni. Isibonelo, kwi-akhawunti kusuka ku-1 kuya ku-10.

Ukungqubuzana kwesithakazelo

Lokhu kusho ukuphikisana. Izinzuzo nokuqeda ukushayisana kwezithakazelo kuyabonakala. Ukukhathazeka ukuthi abantu abaningi bakhohlwa ukuthi kukhona into enjengokuthi "umbono womuntu siqu". Futhi, uma engena engxoxweni nomuntu oneminye imibono esimweni, aqala ukudlula yonke imingcele engenzeka. Qala ukuthuthela kumuntu ngamunye, ukuthuka okuphuthumayo, ukuhlazisa umphikisi. Kuyadabukisa, kungamukeleki futhi kubonisa umuntu kusuka ohlangothini olubi nakakhulu.

Kungani lokhu lapho ungazuza ekuphikisweni kwezintshisekelo? Futhi lapha kunamathuba okwandisa imingcele yakho, ukucubungula imibono ngezinto ezijwayelekile, ukuzama ukucabanga ngendlela ehlukile. Le ndlela ngokuvamile ivame ukunikeza amandla ekuqhakambiseni ubudlelwane bomphakathi ngendlela entsha.

Ubutha

Ukukhuluma ngenzuzo nokuziqhenya kwezingxabano, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ngokuvamile kuvame ukuthi ukungezwani kokubambisana kuholele. Akukho okuhle kulokhu.

Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukungqubuzana kuyisisusa sokulungisa isimo samanje ngokuthula, ngaphandle kwama-scandals. Abaphikisi bangakwazi ukuthulisa phansi futhi bathole iphuzu lomunye nomunye, njengoba belalele umbono kanye nezingxabano ze-interlocutor ngaphandle kokuphazamisa.

Lokhu, futhi, akunikezwa wonke umuntu, ngoba kufanele uqale uthole ngaphezulu kwemizwelo futhi kaningi phezu kwe-ego yakho. Kodwa kungenxa yengxoxo ezolile ukuthi umuntu angaqonda izimbangela kanye nesimo sesimo esiye savela, futhi uthole izindlela zokuphuma kuzo.

I-Typology

Ngemuva kokuxoxwa okufutshane mayelana nezinzuzo nezingozi zokungqubuzana, ngithanda ukunikeza ukunakwa kancane kokuhlelwa kwabo. I-typology enhle ikhonjiswe ku-psychology social. Nazi ezinye izingxabano:

• Ukuziphatha.
• Ukuxhumana nabantu.
• I-Intergroup.
• Phakathi komuntu neqembu.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuphikisana kwezintshisekelo alusebenzi, lungaba lwakwakha noma olulimazayo.

Esimweni sokuqala, abahlanganyeli empikiswaneni bavumelana ngokuvumelana nesisombululo. Ukungavumelani kuqedwe, futhi ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu buqiniswa.

Esimweni sesibili, abahlanganyeli empikiswaneni abafikanga nesisombululo senkinga. Bangakwazi ukukhohlwa ngalokho okwenzekile. Kodwa uma imiphumela yokungavumelani ibonakaliswa kabi ebuhlotsheni babo, le mpikiswano ibhekwa njengokulimaza - ingaguquki.

Izinhlobo

Uma uthatha into yokuphikisana njengomgomo, uzothola izinhlobo ezinhlanu:

• Economic. Vuka ngesisekelo sokungqubuzana kwezithakazelo zezomnotho. Isici sezingxabano silula - kuvela ngoba izidingo zeqembu elilodwa ziyaneliseka ngenye.
• Izenhlalo-zezombangazwe. Isisekelo sabo ukuphikisana okuthinta inqubomgomo kahulumeni nezinye izici zalesi sigaba.
• Ideological. Bavuka ngenxa yokuphikisana emibonweni ngezinkinga ezihlukahlukene zombuso, umphakathi kanye nokuphila.
• Ezomphakathi-kwengqondo. Lapha ukuhlukaniswa kwempi kulula futhi kuyaqondakala, ngoba lolu hlobo lokuphikisana luvame ukuhlangana. Bavuka ngenxa yokungalingani kwengqondo kwabantu, ukungafani kwemibono, umzabalazo wokuhola, ubugovu, njll.
• Ezomphakathi nezokufuywayo. Lezi mpikiswano zihlotshaniswa nemibono ehlukene yabantu mayelana nokuphila nokuphila. Isibonelo esilula kakhulu ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwane bomndeni. Izimbangela zokugqashuka kungaba kokubili ukuphazamiseka kwekhaya kanye nokungahambisani kwemibono.

Lokhu kuhlukaniswa kahle futhi okujwayelekile. Kumele futhi kuqaphele ukuthi ngisho nezingxabano zingokomzwelo futhi zinengqondo, zinde futhi zesikhashana, ezingokomoya nezinto ezibonakalayo.

Amasu okuziphatha

Mayelana nabo, futhi, kufanele utshelwe ngokufushane. Ngokuphelele, amasu amahlanu wokuziphatha ekuxabaneni ayaziwa.

Ukuncintisana. Umuntu olandela leli qhinga, uhlose ukwanelisa izithakazelo zakhe ngokubambisana nabanye. Uyaqiniseka ukuthi yedwa kuphela ongakwazi ukunqoba impikiswano. Umuntu onjalo uyoziphoqa ngokwakhe kuze kube sekugcineni, ngaphandle kokuzama ngisho nokulalela umphikisi.

Ukuguquguquka. Isu elihlukile. Ulandelwa ngabantu abakulungele ukudela izithakazelo zomuntu siqu, uma kuphela umphikisi epholile. Ngokujwayelekile abazithembi, banokuziphatha okubuthakathaka futhi banokuzethemba okuphansi.

Gwema. Isu elingathathi hlangothi. Kukhethwa ngabantu abazama ukugwema izingxabano. Abazitholi izithakazelo zabo, kepha abafokazi nabo abazicabangi.

Ukuncintisana. Leli qhinga libonisa ukwaneliseka okwesikhashana kwezithakazelo zeqembu ngalinye. Umuntu oyedwa uzinikela komunye, uma enza okufanayo.

Ukubambisana. Isu elifanele kakhulu. Ulandelwa abantu abafuna wonke umuntu ukuba anqobe. Bathola imbangela nalokho okubangela ukuxabana, bahlole ngokucophelela kuzo zonke izinhlangothi futhi bathole isisombululo esifanele wonke umuntu.

Ukuhambisana nesiteleka sokugcina, yiqiniso, kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuxazulula le nkinga. Kodwa akulula. Ngenxa yokuthi ngaphambi kokuthi uqale "ukubambisana" phakathi kwalabo ababambe iqhaza empini, kudingeka "uqhubeke" kuwo wonke umuntu.