Ngazo zonke izikhathi, izingane zizalwa njalo, futhi ngaphandle ukunakekela udaba yabazali. Lokhu kwakumane nje akudingekile. Kodwa into washintsha esimweni lanamuhla wezasekhaya ngokucacile. Sasiyini isizathu ukuthi umbuzo kanjani ukuba azale izingane, kakade umsindo buhlungu emphakathini wethu, ngisho into engenziwa? Mina ngeke simthinte phezu izinkinga ngemvelo, ezempilo kanye namathuba zezimali. Bona, yebo, kubalulekile, kodwa ungenayo i-ukubaluleka kubalulekile ezinjalo. Kungenjalo, besingeke sibe khona ezingomakhelwane imindeni emikhulu, lapho inhlalakahle kunzima ngisho nokukhuluma. Ngikholwa ukuthi iyimbangela kumele engagcini lapha.
Ekusebenzelaneni yami Ngingathi iningi izimbangela ukwehluleka kwethu, ngamashwa ngisho isifo thina, futhi kuba engqondweni yethu, psyche futhi imicabango yethu. Kwenza akukho mqondo babelamukela kabusha ukufunda zonke izihloko ezikhuluma sokukhulelwa, ngamehlo ukulangazelela ukuba ahambe nabonina strollers, ngisho nangokwengeziwe ahlupheke kuzo zonke izindlela ezivamile ngisho zicatshangwe lapho kuhlala isisu. Angikwazi isiqiniseko ukuthi kuzoba eziyikhulu amaphesenti impumelelo, kodwa sizoxoxa kuqala bona bese iningi izici uzonyamalala bebodwa. Ungavumeli abantu ongabazi izinto ezithinta ukuphila kwakho. Yilokho imfihlo imindeni enezingane eziningi, abakaze wazibuza mayelana nendlela enabantwana.
Ezimweni eziningi, imithi nje buthuntu ukuze kutholakale imbangela ukungabi nenzalo. Cishe, inkinga kuqala futhi main lapha - kungcono ngokwesaba nangokubheka ukuguquguquka njalo nokuthi kumelwe yini abe ingane nhlobo. Hlaziya! Eminyakeni engu-15, wena uyesaba sokukhulelwa ekuseni, futhi babesaba. Ngesikhathi Institute, ubungase abazali besaba ngeke kusize aphikisa abazukulu, futhi usalokhu athuthukile. Ngemva kokuqeda isikole kwadingeka sukuma, yokwakha ama-career, ukuthola isikhala ophilayo, induduzo kanye nokunye. Ngandlela-thile sasingekho isikhathi, isifiso kanye nethuba. Ngakho, unikezwa ukubeka umzimba wakho ukuthi izingane abanawo ezidingekayo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo bemnika ngesikhathi lapho imisebenzi eyisisekelo yokuphila abangu okuhloswe ngaso ukuzala.
Ngakho, umsebenzi wakho wokuqala nomkhulu kunabo bonke is liphele uqobo. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kumele nisiphule ngokwabo kusukela ukufakwa kugxilile futhi uqondise yonke yangaphakathi zabo amabutho, imicabango nezifiso endaweni efanele. ubunjalo bakho bangempela njengabesifazane kuzokusiza, nje ukuyikhulula e ngokwakho, ayeke pinching wakhe ngesikhathi somhlangano, isimo kanye nesikhundla. Futhi yeka bezibeka icala ngenxa konke futhi ucede imibuzo ehlukahlukene. Kafushane, usukhululekile!
Ngakusasa impikiswano ebalulekile - it is okuphindaphindiwe isikhangiso ukugomela nauseam ukuthi enabantwana ngoba bemthanda futhi akukho okunye. Ngokusho umkhuba wansuku, akunjalo. Kodwa kukhona omunye "kodwa." Uma dream of a ingane, induduzo umndeni, inhlalakahle ukuphila kwakho emisha eyethulwa, ukuba azale ingane kudingeka ngempela uthando. Imicabango yakho, imizwa, uthanda ukunikeza kulungiselelwa kuqala futhi ezijulile ukuze kwakhiwe umuntu omusha. Futhi uthando - umqondo ezinamandla kakhulu futhi kuyiqiniso, lokudala kahle. Nale ukufakwa yokuqala umuntu owayezelwe ngizoya kulempilo nzima eqiniseka kakhudlwana, ngoba usuvele bangibekele kuwo inhlansi injabulo. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphathe ukugcina kwakho siqu enhlalakahleni ozithandayo bomkhaya obuqinile. Ngeshwa, akusebenzi njalo ngendlela ofuna. Kodwa uzama lokhu, futhi lokhu kubalulekile.
kanjani izingane? Kubalulekile ukuthi lolu daba ukhathazekile ayigcinanga ngokuchaza ukuthi umama okhulelwe, kodwa futhi ubaba esizayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ingane kanye ndoda yafuna. Futhi ungathandi nje, isibonelo, njengoba umuntu owayezothatha isikhundla uyaziqhenya izinhlobo, iSilekeleli Sokwazisa, kodwa njengoba ucezu, baqhubeka ngokwabo nothando lwabo yowesifazane. Ngokuvamile ufuna unina womntwana, futhi lo muntu kuleli cala engcono nje uthanda futhi uyavuma nalo. Futhi believe me, kunzima ukulwa. Kodwa ezihambayo kulolo hlangothi kakhulu kunomvuzo kakhulu. Uma umyeni wakho ngeke ukwabelana nawe injabulo nokulindela ingane, ngeke ukwazi ukwabelana nawe futhi ngobunzima neminyaka yokuqala yokuphila komntwana. Futhi uma ubaba ayenzi abangane nge kuzalwa, bese ekugcineni yokuthola ulimi olulodwa njengoba izinyane, futhi nizoba nzima. Ngakho ungaphuthelwa ithuba zidonse ukunaka kwanoma amadoda yakho nempikiswano lokuzalwa kwengane. Njalo ngezinto ezikukhathazayo futhi ucabangele umbono wakhe. Lena zonke kubaluleke kakhulu.
Akwenziwang kalula kanjalo, njengoba isisho. Kodwa uma ukuphatha ukuxazulula lezi umehluko wemisindo nemiqondo yamagama eziyisisekelo eminye kakade uthando lwakho kanye nesifiso sokwenza ingayala efanele. Khona-ke uzothola ngokwakho ikhambi esifanele umndeni wakho ethile. Khona-ke okuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye namathiphu ngeke zidingeke ngawe. Funda ukuzizwa isimo sakho kusuka ngaphakathi, i-ka inhliziyo ukujula, ukuzizwa zonke izidingo zakho siqu kanye nezidingo. Khona-ke uyokwazi ukwenza izinqumo esifanele wena nomndeni wakho.
Lingachazwa isimo eziyinkinga kunezinzuzo zako. Phela, nje kakhulu Ukubuza ka umbuzo wokuthi ingane ukwenza, kakade usetha yabazali ngokuphathelene nesimo wemfanelo lolu daba. Futhi uma ngaphambi le nqubo wasala ngokuphelele ukuba unakekelwe Nkulunkulu, manje ambalwa amabhere futhi benesibopho ukuba umuntu omusha. Ngakho-ke, impendulo eyinhloko yalo mbuzo othi kanjani ukuba azale izingane emikhayeni namuhla, ngombono wami, kufanele: "Nge nomthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu." Nazi nje isimo sengqondo wemfanelo kokuthile njalo udonsa kanye nobunzima ezengeziwe. Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa ithemba, nje ukuhambisa endaweni efanele futhi njalo ukusebenza ngokwakho. Futhi udinga bonke baphume.
Hhayi konke okusemandleni ethu, kodwa into singakwazi futhi thina kuthanda. Ngakho-ke ungakhohlwa lesi saga: "Thembela kuNkulunkulu, futhi labo ukuzisiza!" Inhlanhla kuwe nomndeni wakho!