Ukuphinga: Indlela yokugwema kwabo?

Sikhangwe insizwa kanye intombazane uzimisele ukunikela ngokuba ndawonye nje. Badlula kanye eziningi ukuhlolwa, ukulwa futhi enze ukuthula, shiya abuyele nomunye, bese ithunyelwa umbhalisi bese udala umkhaya ovamile, uqinile futhi. Ngokusho logic ezidingekayo ukuze ungeze ukuthi azohlala ukuphila .... Kodwa empeleni wonke ingase ibe khona ehlukile ngempela.

Kubi izwi ukuvukela umbuso

Zahlubuka kungabangela ukudabuka of ubudlelwano obuqinile, kuze kube phakade ufulathele nezinye umbhangqwana ngamunye ngothando ukuphula ukuphila wonke umndeni. Kungani lokhu kwakwenzeka? Kungani umuntu ekholelwa kungenzeka ngesikhathi esisodwa ukuzikhohlwa "nengxenye yesibili" yakhe futhi niqhubeke usesho nakho ezintsha? Mhlawumbe ukukhashelwa - akusiyo scary, kodwa kuqinisa imizwa kuphela? Kuthiwa ubuhlungu kakhulu esingabenzela inflict nje umuntu sithanda kakhulu. Akukho lutho mubi kuka ukukhashelwa othandekayo - nokukhaphela nje sokukhaphela. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba sihambe asilahle ukuphinga, kufanele uqonde, kwenzeka ngenxa yesizathu esithile.

Ngokuvamile, abangane bomshado kugucula nomunye lapho zonke imizwa phakathi kwabo liphelile. Kulokhu, ukukopela kungokwemvelo, kusukela ubuhlobo ayikwazi siqhubeke futhi uziqede ayikwazi ixazululwe futhi umyeni noma unkosikazi. Ukuphinga kwenzeka uma izimpawu zokuqala izinkinga ebudlelwaneni. Indoda noma umfazi ingase ibonise izimpawu ukunakwa kwabanye abantu, benethemba lokuthola kubangele umona esisemthethweni "ingxenye" bese ubuyela uthando lwabo. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungabhekwa njengokuvukela umbuso walungisiswa yini, njengoba kwakunesidingo abanezinhloso ezinhle. Isizathu sesithathu owakwakhe athembeke nomunye zingaba kanye Ukungezwani umndeni, ukuphila ubulili abanelisekile, kanye nanoma yimiphi eminye izinkinga, ngokuvumelana ukushintsha umuntu, awukwazi ingaxazululwa ngendlela ehlukile.

Ingabe kanjani ukungathembeki?

Ngugobe womshado ingavinjelwa. Kanjani? I elula kunazo futhi ecacile - zokuxhumana. I indoda nomfazi kufanele ibe engagunci nomunye, nixoxe ngokukhululekile ngokungavumelani izinkinga nemindeni yabo. Yiqiniso, akufanele ukufinyelela ukuthukwa mutual incazelo bakudala buhlobo. Ingxabano ayikwazi zifeza okuhle - konke kuzoqala nge spoilt kwemizwa, futhi umphumela kungaba ukuphinga.

Uma ukukopela namanje, ngoba noma ngabe yisiphi isizathu, selwenzekile kakade, kubalulekile ukuba banakekele ukuthi wahlala engashadile. Ukuze wenze lokhu, okokuqala, kudingeka ukhohlwe wukukhala "ingxenye" yakhe yesibili. Kunzima kakhulu ukwamukela, uthethelele futhi izama ukukhohlwa, kodwa kuyadingeka, noma ukuphila komkhaya ngeke kuphinde kube njengasekuqaleni, ubudlelwane akazange aphule kwangqingetshe, futhi ngokushesha kungase igoqe. Ukuthi ukuphinga akuyona okuphindaphindiwe, kubalulekile ukuxoxa nomuntu othandana naye ukuthi kwaphoqa on. Mhlawumbe izinto akuzona scary ngakho.

Akunakusetshenziswa abakwazi ukuya beqisa - lokusola ngokwabo womshado ongathembekile. ukuzethemba wethu ukuhlala ezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu, ngoba kuphela ngezinga azinakwa akhashelwa andodanye kungenxa yokukhubazeka ngokomzimba noma ezinye ubulili ezincane.

Uma uku uzimisele ukulwa ngokwabelana injabulo yomkhaya wakho, zama ukungazivezi nje futhi azidlulise ukuphinga, kodwa futhi uzama ukuba abuyise imizwa ubudala. Sivuselele ubudlelwane can romance, ephoqa lo mbhangqwana ukukhumbula lokho imizwa bathola ngaphambi komshado. Kufanele ukuya ebhayisikobho ndawonye, lapho umyeni esizayo nonkosikazi wahlangana noma achitha khona amahora abajabule kunabo bonke. Ungaya eholidini, okuyinto Kwakuhlelwe isikhathi eside. Ungaba izinhlelo ndawonye okuphila kwesikhathi esizayo noma nje iphupho. Into esemqoka - ukunikeza omthandayo abe nomuzwa wokuthi namanje yokuthi noma yimaphi amaphutha ezingelapheka futhi siqhubekele phambili.