Izincomo guys. Kusho ukuthini ukuba umuntu uncoma

indlela elingenazinkinga ukuze athole ukunakwa ka bathandile guy - ngobuciko bazikhulumele, ezithinta imibuzo ukuthi akayena ongenandaba. Ukunakisisa kakhulu ku izimo zawo, ungakwazi kalula sifinyelele ukuqashelwa ezihlekela futhi unesimo sengqondo enobungane.

Kwelinye aphorisms ka Dale Carnegie (umbhali wencwadi ethi odumile ukuthonya abantu) uthi wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki isikhundla sakhe emphakathini nasenkolweni, ufana nabantu abayithanda kuye.

Abameleli beNdikimba nengxenye enamandla lwesintu nabo bayajabula. Cishe bonke abantu singangena kule ukuthopha. Owesilisa, ngasendleleni, ezingaphezu kuka amantombazane (abenza spoilt nge izincomo), nakuba ayengazi alivume. Ngakho-ke, sibambe le ndlela ezingabizi futhi kulula kanjani ukukhokha izincomo ukuze guys, noma iyiphi intombazane kalula lizuze insizwa bathandile wakhe.

Enye omunye aphorisms Carnegie uthi duda umuntu othize - kusho ukumtshela lokho akucabangayo yena. Kuyinto engenakwenzeka ukuthola nomuntu ocabanga ezimbi ngabo isithunzi sabo, okungenzeka kwadingeka noma cha.

Kodwa ukuthopha ukuthopha ngokufanayo. Ukunconywa guys akufanele sikhulume isifanekiso, mhlawumbe ngaphandle kwezinye ejwayelekile uma ngesizotha ufuna uqaphele izinguquko ezithile endleleni umuntu abonakala ngayo. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi umuntu noma ukugunda izinwele okuhle, kubukeka kukuhle namuhla. Noma yimuphi umuntu yokudumisa owathi, kuthiwa imali kwimemori. Futhi-ke, guys izincomo kufanele kube lusizo, yokuqala, hhayi uwafake esimweni esiyinkinga. Ake sixoxe ngezinye imininingwane.

Ukunconywa guys azihlukile kakhulu kusukela izincomo amantombazane. Uma uthi nhlá, kubonakala, intsha akuzona fixated nokunye ukubukeka kwabo njengoba isigamu enhle lwesintu, kodwa akunjalo. Uma umuntu ukushintsha isithombe noma begqoke kancane ehlukile, ngisho ezingeni esesimweni sokungaphili ngokuphelele, afuna ukuba siqashelwe futhi wadumisa, akunika ukuba nginconywe. Qiniseka ukuthi umtshele ngale nto - futhi uzobona ukuthi uyokwaneliswa futhi isithembiso lakho liqinisekile ukuze siqashelwe.

Lapho sithatha ukuncoma kumfana, cabanga ke ubuntu bakhe. Amazwi akho kufanele ayiqiniso, ngoba amanga into ebonakalayo kwesinye isikhathi - futhi umphumela olulindelekile kungenzeka okuphambene. Nge bangempela ngokumthanda uphawu, isibonelo, i-cast oluvelele kwengqondo yakhe, umuzwa olukhulu amahlaya, ukubukeka wesilisa, amehlo amahle, njll kuphela Into esemqoka - Ungeqisi it.

Kusabalulekile ngokukhululeka noma eyokufunda ukulalela. Nalapha futhi, futhi, baphendukele Carnegie. umngane Kuhle owazi indlela balalelisise. Futhi kakade. Mhlawumbe ungenalo ulwazi kangaka, njengoba uzakwabo yakho, kodwa banake lokho akushoyo, futhi ngisho noma cha khuluma igama, usenguye ethanda kakhulu ukuhlangana, ngikhulume nani. Yingaleso sikhathi-ke kungenzeka ukuba nifaka Cabangisisa zesifazane wezikhali - izincomo ngoba nsizwa njengoba neqhinga ukukuyenga bathandile le nsizwa.

Ukunconywa guy ozithandayo, yebo, uzwakale obuseduze ngokwengeziwe, kodwa kukhona ububanzi ngokuqephuza sothando! Ungayeki ubunyoninco intandokazi yakho - ingqondo yakhe, izenzo, oluyisimangaliso, esifubeni omangalisayo nezinye izimo zawo. Ngokuvamile usho izincomo guy ozithandayo, futhi kuzothuthukisa ukuzihlonipha - uyohlale ukufuna ukuya lapho kungcono, mnene, ukunakekela, nothandekayo kuye, enhle, nasici futhi lapho ukulalela kuye futhi ozethembayo. Ukuze intombazane ukwenza kube lula, ngoba umuntu esimthandayo akulona amaphutha kanye kokufaneleka kuphela, futhi kuba Axiom eside zamukelwa ngothando.

Dare, sentombazane, futhi ukhumbule ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukhetha, kuphambene ukuthi akhethwe ngabantu.