Indlela yokusinda ekuhlukaneni nentombazane

Isikhathi sesifikile lapho uhlephula nomuntu wakho othandekayo, nakuba kuze kube umzuzu wokugcina uqiniseka ngokuqinile ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buhle kakhulu, futhi ukuhlukana ngeke kufike. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ohlangothini lwaso lubukeka luyinkimbinkimbi, luthinta wena kuphela. Kukhona isibalo esikhulu, kodwa lokhu akuyona into esemqoka. Into esemqoka ukuthi awusekho ndawonye.

Indlela yokusinda ekuhlukaneni nentombazane? Kusukela kulokhu kwenzeka ngezenzakalo zomphefumulo ngokungabandakanyeki kuhlala isilwane ngendlela ebonakalayo kanye nezinkumbulo, inhliziyo ehlala ishaya futhi iqhakazile, kodwa enhliziyweni yokulangazelela. Okokuqala, konke okudingayo ukuzama ukukhohlwa intombazane. Akulula ukwenza, kodwa lesi sinyathelo siyadingeka ukuze uqhubekele ekuphileni. Ukuze usinde ukuhlukaniswa nentombazane, hlala phansi ucabange ngokucophelela, kodwa uyayidinga ngempela njengoba ucabanga. Mhlawumbe imizwa endala ayinalo uthando, kodwa kuphela ukushiseka. Mhlawumbe ukhangwa kuphela ngesithombe, hhayi ngomuntu uqobo lwakhe, noma ngabe uthanda kakhulu umzimba wakhe, futhi awunasithakazelo kumlingisi. Ziphefumulele ukuthi ubudlelwane obunjalo ngonyaka, omunye noma kunjalo kunoma yini enhle ngeke kukuholele. Ungadabuki ukuthi yonke into yahamba, ujabule ukuthi wawunayo.

Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungaphila kanjani ukuhlukana nentombazane, kufanele uqokomise izinzuzo ozitholile ngenxa yokuthi unalobuhlobo. Okokuqala, awusoze uhambisa ubuchopho bakho ngendlela enjalo futhi uthuthukise umcabango wakho wokunquma ukuthi yini ongayithengela iholidi. Babengeke baye emidlalweni yaseshashalazini, bebengasoze bezwa izingoma ezinhle futhi bebengakwazi ngezinto eziningi zokuzilibazisa ezithakazelisayo. Ngalokhu angase athi "ngiyabonga". Ngaphezu kwalokho, manje uyazi ukuthi kungani ubuhlobo bungaphazamiseka, futhi yiziphi izenzo ezingakuphoqa ukuba usinde ekuhlukaneni nentombazane. Esikhathini esizayo, lokhu awusayikuvumela. I-Destiny ngokwayo ikuqondisa endleleni yangempela, ngakho, ngokuqhubekayo, usebenzisa isipiliyoni sakho, funa owakho, futhi ungazami ukubuyisa okwangaphambili. Ngikholelwa, akukho lutho olungakusiza ukuba ungacabangi ukuthi ungaphila kanjani ukuhlukana nentombazane yakho ethandekayo , njengokufuna umthandi omusha.

Ungabuzi imibuzo "ngubani ongabekwa icala", "ngizokwenzenjani manje," "ukuthi ungabuya kanjani isikhathi," njll. Ukuthi uthando seludlulile, njengesikhathi esingakaze sabuyiselwe. Futhi ukuze ukhohlwe ngokushesha konke onakho, phuma endlini yakho, uphonsa konke okukukhumbuza okwedlule, uhlanze ifoni yakho kusuka emilayezo bese ususa zonke izithombe kusuka kukhompyutha. Ayikho igama, akukho uphawu noma into okufanele ikukhumbuze ngothando lwakho oludlule.

Ukuze ungacabangi ukuthi ungaphila kanjani ukuhlukana nentombazane, futhi nje ukhohlwe ngakho, tshela mayelana nekhefu lakho kubo bonke abangane nabangani bakho. Bacele ukuthi bakusekele njalo lapho behlangana nabo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyona ukuqala ukuphuza ngokweqile, njengoba abaningi benza. Lokhu kuzokwenza nje ukuba nomuzwa wokuzisola emehlweni kubangane bakho, abangase babe nombono wamanga ukuthi ubuthakathaka, ukhale ngenxa ye "bab." Yonke into ongayenziyo ingcono kakhulu. Ukuxazulula inkinga "indlela yokuphila ehamba nentombi yakho" umuntu uthatha inyanga, umuntu unonyaka, kanti abanye banomphefumulo wonke. Noma kunjalo, ezinsukwini ezingu-10-12 ngeke uhlale ucabanga ngokulahlekelwa kwakho, futhi kungakapheli amasonto amabili uzokwazi ukuqala impilo entsha. Zama ngalesi sikhathi ukuthi ungahlali ekhaya wedwa, futhi uma usuhlala, ungangabazi ukubhala phansi imibono yakho ephepheni. Yebo, kwakuphepheni. Thola uhlobo lwedayari, noma umagazini "ophilayo" ku-Intanethi. Ukuxhumana nabanye abantu abazokunikeza iseluleko kuzosiza futhi ukuthola isinqumo esifanele, indlela yokuphila ukuhlukana nentombazane.

Enye indlela enkulu ukuvakashela i-gym. Lokhu kuzokunika ukuzethemba okukhulu futhi kukhuthaze ithemba lokuthi uyakwazi ukufeza konke okufunayo empilweni yakho. Futhi khumbula ukuthi ungumuntu okwazi okuningi okuningi.