Amathiphu guys: yini okumele uyenze uma asithatha?

Ukubudlelwano kukhona izinkinga, awusakwazi ukwenza noma inyunyana ngaphandle izingxabano. Futhi kulabo ngokuhlukana umuntu eqhuma imizwelo akuvezi ephelele kuphazamiseke ubuhlobo, kubalulekile ukuba abe nomqondo ocacile yini okumele uyenze uma asithatha.

Into yokuqala kakhulu udinga ukuthola ukuthi unayo yini ithuba ukubuyisela ubuhlobo. Lokhu uzokutshela ukuthi imbangela ukuxabana, kanye nobunjalo intombazane uma yena uyazikhulumela, le ukudabuka zenzeke ekuqhumeni umuzwa, Nokho, uthando lwakhe futhi imfudumalo balondolozwa. Mhlawumbe ngandlela-thile iphutha, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi ngempela eliphezulu. Uma isizathu sokuhlala ngokuhlukana ukuthi engasenandaba wena, noma uthando nomunye, maningi amathuba okuthi babe ukwamukela.

Ngaphambi kokuba unqume ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, udinga ukuthola ukuthi kungani amantombazane baphume abafana :

• nokuntula usizo;
• ukukopela (noma ngesandla sakho);
• nomona kwamehlula;
• emacaleni;
• yena wamthanda nomunye;
• yokuntuleka ukwehluka ebuhlotsheni nokunye.

Ngakho, Kwenzeka kanjani lokhu? Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso of yini okumele uyenze uma asithatha:

• Mangaza wakhe. Hlela i kusihlwa ongasoze wawukhohlwa. Linda ekhaya nge isixha esikhulu izimbali, amthathe endaweni ethile, zama ukuba bajabule futhi sikhumbula indlela obukade ezinhle ndawonye.
• Ukuzola. Ungakwazi Ungethuki, nangesifo ngokwakho sizibuza ukuthi singenzani. Uma uphonsa intombazane, akusiwona ukuphela, injongo yokuphila elahlekile, futhi liyaqhubeka nentokazi noma ngaphandle kwalo.
• Khuluma naye. Xoxa ze limele, kunalokho, uma une eningi innuendo kanye nezicelo ngokumelene nomunye, kungaba wusizo kakhulu ukuxoxa. Zonke izinkinga zingaxazululwa, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi icala lakho - iyathinteka.
• Ingabe lokhu ukukusiza? Ngokwesibonelo, uma intombazane wajikijela Man akuyona okokuqala, ukuthi udinga ke njalo usungula into baphule ukubuyela konke? Kulokhu-ke kulula zilahle zekhanda lami bayakhohlwa konke kusikhumbuza wakhe.

Kuthiwani uma yena wamshiya, ngoba wathola omunye umuntu?

Yiqiniso, ukukhohlwa. Uma yena athembeke kuwe kanye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunzima kangakanani sad, wayezoba akwazi ukuphinda yalokhu "kwephula umthetho" futhi. Manje inselele indlela ukukhohlwa wakhe. Nanka amanye amathiphu.

1. Khumbula ukuthi ubuwenzani zale ubudlelwane. I am ukuzihlalela nabangane, ukwenza ezemidlalo, edlala band noma enye into? Sebenzisa le njengezaba zokwenza bakwazi ukuphinde benze imisebenzi odlule noma ukuthola wokuzilibazisa entsha.
2. Awukwazi awela yithemba, nakakhulu - ukuqala ukuphuza utshwala futhi baphonse "emimoyeni." Athikanyezwe okunye.
3. Ingabe bona, ziphenduke. Cabanga indlela ngcono, ukuze ke sorry ukuthi ulahlekelwe.
4. Awukwazi uyikhohlwa, ngoba konke ukhumbuza wakhe? Zonke izithombe kanye nezipho etholakele wakhe, ubeke kude, ngakho bengezwa iso. Ngaphansi ukuxhumana nabangani kanye nomndeni wakhe.
5. Zama nobuhlobo enye intombazane, kodwa hhayi ngenhloso yokuziphindiselela, noma wenze engajabule abanye abantu.

Manje uyazi ukuthi wenzeni uma asithatha. Akunakusetshenziswa akazange awele abantu abaningi abasinaki futhi khumbula ukuthi uthando lweqiniso iza ubudala, futhi kubalulekile ukulinda. Leyo ntombazane, okuyinto udinga, uyokuthanda oyikho, futhi wonke amaphutha amancane ngizoya ngasendleleni.