Amasu ekuthathweni kwezinqumo ukuthi awusoze wazisola

Lapho isikhathi siyeza eyodla, ufuna omkhudlwana isangweji elimnandi nge ushizi eyosiwe. Usebenzise lo kwezidingo futhi bazi konke okuhle amandla iphuzu, okuyinto etholakala eduze ehhovisi lakho. Ungakwazi oda njengamanje bese dinner iphupho kungaba ilungelo kutholakale kalula. Kodwa umbuzo uwukuthi: uke kakade isu ngokukhetha umkhiqizo best? Ingabe ukusebenzisa sinye siyafanana amandla iphuzu noma ngokucophelela ukukhetha imigomo kwezidingo kanye indlela kulungiselelwa. Zikhona ongakhetha, zazo ngeke uzisole, noma uzimisele uzame konke ukudla endaweni engaba amakhilomitha amathathu ukusuka ehhovisi?

Abantu abenza izinqumo zihlukaniswe ngezigaba ezimbili

Kwabanye abantu akukho lula kunaleyo ukuba enze ukukhetha. emkhakheni wezokusebenza kwengqondo ucwaningo luye lwathola ukuthi kubo bonke abantu, uma kuziwa ekuthathweni kwezinqumo, zihlukaniswe ngezigaba ezimbili. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukhona labo bayayeka ukufuna umkhiqizo noma isevisi engcono, ithola ukuthi ihlangabezana ngokugcwele izidingo zabo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukhona "maximizers" ngubani sibuyekeza zonke amathuba izikhathi eziningana. Uma baphakathi kwabokuqala, ke uyokwenza lwesigameko ethize. Ufuna Cheddar ushizi, ubhontshisi kanye ubhekeni. Omunye khetho ukuthi khuphula ku iso lokuqala, futhi kuyoba okukhethayo. Kungani ukubheka okunye, uma izimo eziyinhloko wanelisa?

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lo okuthiwa "maximizers" uzobe ngifuna isangweji yakhe bese, manje noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bayobuyela inguqulo yasekuqaleni. Laba bantu kudingeka siqiniseke ukuthi lolu hlu olude ngokuqinisekile akakwazi kube ungcono. Abasoze udla amasemishi, okuyinto kangifanele isihloko tastiest.

Isu akuyona njengoba ebalulekile njengoba isinqumo ngokwaso

Ngokunengqondo isu ekuthathweni ubhekwa omunye ukuthi lingachazwa ngokuthi "ayanele." Njengoba umkhuba ubonisa, isibalo sabantu kusukela "esesilinganisweni" avame ukuba ngijabule ngale ndlela kukho abalithandayo. "Maximizer" abajabule, ngoba uchithe isikhathi esikhulu ucabange indlela eziwubala (kukhethwa kwasemini), kanye nezindaba global (umsebenzi). Izinketho ukuthi ayalahlwa endleleni, futhi kamuva akazange abanike ukuphumula. Laba bantu njalo bacabanga ukuthi ekugcineni akhetha ukungazifaki into engcono. Nokho, ngokuvumelana ukucwaninga kwesayensi, imiphumela zazo owanyatheliswa ephephabhukwini "Personality futhi Social Psychology," indaba iye yaqhubeka.

Ucwaningo okuhloswe ngaso ekuhloleni ukwaneliseka ekuphileni

Uchungechunge lwemfundo ucwaningo, abacwaningi ezikhonjwe abahlanganyeli 'izinga lokwaneliseka wokuphila kanye Ukuthanda self-reflection, kuye ngokuthi amasu abo esingokwemvelo kwezinqumo. Kokunye sokuhlola, sokuzithandela ngamunye kwadingeka bavume ukwamukela noma inselele isitatimende, "Kimi kukhona kuphela ezindinganisweni eziphakeme," bese ukutshela abacwaningi mayelana imizwelo yabo, ebuka simo yezinto izinqumo.

Promotion nokuhlola

Ngokusekelwe kulezi okutholakele, abalobi cwaningo lwathola amazinga "maximizers" has nezigatshana ezimbili. Labo abantu bagxile ukukhuthazwa, esetshenziswa ayicabangele ngokucophelela emihle nemibi ukukhetha ngamunye. Ngezinga elikhulu, lokhu iqeqebana isethwe ukucinga ukuze kuzuze bona. Kodwa labo bagxile nokuhlolwa, ekuqaleni ucabange ukuthi kukhona elibanzi best choice, noma inkathi, futhi kudingeka nje babeke zivundulula lonke ulwazi ukuthola le ndlela.

Ubani ubusa ngaphezu kobukhulu noma sikhathazeke ngazo?

Abacwaningi baphetha ngokuthi abantu kusukela iqembu lesibili lwebhere babekezelela izinkathazo "maximizers." "Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kahle, uma nethuba ubuyekeze ngokucophelela ongakhetha. Kodwa uma uqala kabusha overestimate amathuba afanayo, kuba esidumazayo futhi kuyadabukisa, "- wathi cwaningo phambili kumbhali Dzheffri Hyuz, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomphakathi e-University of Waterloo eCanada. It ukuba uqhubeke ukucabanga ngazo zonke izinketho ukuthi kwadingeka zihambe, esikhundleni ejabulela umgomo wokugcina.